gua cringe karena gua bisa romantisasi hal-hal kecil yang berkeliaran di hidup gua, lu nganggep cringe karena lu ga bisa nemuin indahnya hal-hal yang ada di hidup lu
Normalize not forcing your importance in someone's life. Let people do what they want so you can see what they'd rather do. If someone doesn't see the value in having you by their side, don’t try to convince them.
once you turn 20 you have to fight everyday for the rest of your life to not lose your personality & spirit...bc what once came naturally to you will be exhausted into nothing if you don't actively Try. it's terrifyingly easy to become a lethargic, soulless adult
Never teach a man how to be your man. Don't ask him for anything. Not a date. Not flowers. Not clingy texts. Not morning calls. Not time. Not affection. When a man truly wants you,he moves different on his own. Life's too short to be waiting for someone to act right!
Bc nobody wants to deal with people when they’re depressed. People will get sick of you, and quickly, and before you know it you’re losing people bc you’re ’negative’ and ‘draining’. Best kept to yourself if you can keep yourself safe.
i think long-term stress changes people quietly. you become less expressive, less excited, more tired, more detached, until one day you barely recognize the version of yourself that existed before survival mode.
selingkuh emang jahat, but lebih jahat orang yang, udah tau dirinya diusahakan, dijadikan satu- satunya, tapi masih menyepelekan bahkan kaya ga pernah ada artinya dimatanya
you ever become so emotionally drained that even replying to people who genuinely care about you starts feeling difficult because your mind is just exhausted from carrying too much for too long
i think what really changed me was noticing how often i abandoned my own boundaries just to avoid losing people who were already slowly losing me anyway
Girl to girl:
You’re going to cry the day you realize you cannot love someone into emotional maturity. You’ll explain, beg, communicate, forgive, and try to understand them for so long… only to realize you’ve been carrying the entire relationship by yourself.
It will hit you the day you casually stop communicating and realize they never even cared enough to ask why.
kalau mau marah, marahlah pakai bahasa manusia. jelasin bagian mana yang bikin lo gak suka. silent treatment itu salah satu bentuk marah paling tega. sejahat-jahatnya manusia, ngediemin orang sampai bikin dia overthinking dan ngerusak pikirannya sendiri itu kejam banget.