focus on being someone whose actions reflect their values. you may not control every story people tell about you, but you can choose how you conduct yourself.
trying to manage everyone's perception of you can become an exhausting full-time job. you start filtering your decisions through the question of how they might look instead of whether they feel right for you.
take responsibility when you've genuinely hurt someone or made a mistake. but don't confuse accountability with the impossible task of making every person approve of you.