things I've learned don't mean anything:
-sleeping together
-meeting their family
-no protection
-talking about the future
- calling for hours
-"I love you"
if you broke my trust & i loved you enough to let you back in & allow you to rebuild my trust again...only for you to leave me hanging & call me crazy for wanting reassurance and maybe a lil extra effort to gain back the security you took away... you're the worst type of person.
Ngl after a certain age, being a bad partner is just embarrassing. Sooo you didn't do any work on yourself? No introspection, no healing, no growth... just basking in your toxicity huh?
No amount of chemistry can ever make up for the anxiety that comes from being with someone who’s emotionally inconsistent, unkind, or misaligned with your core values.
I will never again pretend to be the easygoing, low maintenance girl. I love receiving flowers without having to ask. I appreciate unexpected “thinking of you” texts and thoughtful check ins. I enjoy forehead kisses and good morning messages. I like being taken on meaningful dates that I didn’t have to plan.
I want to be shown off, not hidden, like someone you’re proud to have. I love affection, intentional time together, and little surprises. I like to be loved out loud. I’m done making myself smaller to be easier to love. I love hard and I won’t apologize for it anymore.
incase you weren't raised correctly, i think it’s a mans job to set the tone in a relationship; whether people want to admit it or not, a woman feeds off his energy.. his consistency, his intentions, his presence. she takes what he gives and reflects it. when a man leads with clarity, love, and respect, it creates a space where a woman can feel safe, soft, and secure. vice versa, when he leads with confusion, mixed signals, and inconsistency, it forces her to operate in survival mode. she becomes guarded, unsure, and emotionally exhausted.
maturing is realizing none of us are easy to be with. It's about who's willing to stay committed to understanding you and actually wants to grow with you.