Ok so a thing I've learnt from all my kinky question feedback DMs etc (thank you again everyone! Sorry if I haven't been able to reply to yours yet, it's still much appreciated!) is that kinks/preferences are REALLY individual, and can be really specific and detailed too. One person's desires around a particular kink - e.g. spanking for example, can be very different from the next person's, even though the act is the same. And the line between 'I like this' and 'but I don't like it like THAT!!' can be wafer thin. It seems like the only way to really do things well is to do LOTS of communication before hand with your partner, to make sure you understand each other and what you want/need, really really well! ๐คโค๏ธ