“How can any of us successfully and authentically interrogate reality, provoke learning, tackle tough challenges and enrich relationships in a talkathon, where nary a breath is allowed?” Yes. Agreed and amen. But how do we tackle this when our talking partner doesn’t agree.
Have never intentionally considered emotional wakes before. When I leave a conversation what emotions am I leaving with people? And is what I intend actually the emotion that is being felt? How do I know? I need to ask. #toughconvos#fierceconversations@tvansoelen
“Obeying our instincts and offering them up to a colleague or loved one is like putting a paddle in the conversational waters at the right time, in the right spot.” A good reminder to listen to my instincts — it may just bring the conversation to the exact place it needs to be.
“The very outcomes we fear if we confront someone’s behavior are practically guaranteed to show up if we don’t.” Ooof, this hits. We do not help ourselves or others if we avoid tough conversations. #fierceconverations#susanscott#toughconvos@tvansoelen
Some great reminders from #fierce conversations for instruction coaching. Don’t do most of the talking (learn how to ask good questions and listen), don’t ignore emotions, be clear and succinct, value/protect this time, slow down the convo. #toughconvos@tvansoelen
Reading Fierce Conversations has me thinking today. Am I fully present with people or am I only half listening? People want to be known and the conversation is the relationship. Get curious, seek to understand. #toughconvos@tvansoelen
Pleasing people is not inherently a flaw but sometimes we take it way too far. We need to stop people pleasing and tell the truth from our reality. We can still gain the support and approval from others through sharing our real thoughts and feelings.
Seeing a ton of connections between Fierce Conversations and the Wayfinder training. Instead of just getting defensive when someone challenges an idea. Take a pause. Get genuinely curious. Ask them to say more.
#toughconvos@tvansoelen
“What would you add if you DID have something to add?” Susan Scott, Fierce Conversations. How do we intentionally encourage a voice in the silence? Do we? Those voices matter but too often they remain unheard.
Fierce Conversations by Susan Scott reminds us that every conversation impacts relationships. Show up, listen, and speak truth to drive real connection and change. #toughconvos@tvansoelen