Maturing is realizing that…….
Don't date the...
"im sorry to hear that" and “That's crazy" men.
Date the...
"Where are you? “II come get you,"
I got you,
"Let's fix it."
"I'm on my way."
"How much?"
"Let me make a call."
"It's handled."
"How can I show up for you best?"
Y’all… so tell me why I went through my man’s phone because he’d been acting a little secretive and my mind immediately went to he’s cheating. I’m scrolling through messages, mama, sister, auntie, cousin… then I see a thread saved as “God’s Doing.” Now I’m mad because God don’t text, so I already had my chest tight thinking this had to be another woman. I open the messages and I see Apple Pay after Apple Pay. My heart is pounding. Then I read a message that stopped me cold. It said, “I know how much you love your son, and as men we have to stick together. Take this and celebrate with your son like you always do. I’d rather look like the stepdad that doesn’t do much than for you to look like the dad that doesn’t do nothing.” Y’all… I dropped to my knees and cried. My baby’s father had been laid off, and I knew it was hurting him financially and mentally, but for three months he never stopped showing up for his child. And the whole time, it was because my man was quietly sending him money so my son never felt the difference.
Ngl, this generation normalized crashing out a lil too much for me. Control your emotions when you get around me. I’m not going to baby you. 2025 is in flames we all going through it. You are not special.