Men really get upset when you verbalize how you'd like to be loved. Sir, no one said you have to be the man to love me. If I say I love flowers and I want my doors open and you view those as a chore more than a gesture.
It's simple...Move
It should come NATURALLY for a man to want to have fun with you, take you out, feed you, do nice things for you, and compliment you.
You should never have to teach someone to do that.