Cadybug14

• Dog lover • Ukulele player • Singer

[Meg | The Feminist Budget Mom @_nomadic_soul]

The issue is not with women’s bodies, it’s with men’s minds.

[AskAubry 🦋 🐆🦝 @ask_aubry]

Safeway implemented this back in 2005 and it was soon apparent it made their female cashier unsafe to do. But they kept up the policy for years.

[AskAubry 🦋 🐆🦝 @ask_aubry]

Timeline Cleanse: two penguins comforting each other.

[Cadybug14 @cadybug141]

@smith92118 @ask_aubry These types of men seem to only think in a black and white “Superior and Inferior” relationship for everything… like I don’t think they can even conceptualize a woman being an equal to them 😑

[Ryan Hamilton @TheRyanHamilton]

My heart is broken💔: As friends & family know, my wife was pregnant with our 2nd child, & about to begin her 2nd trimester. A few days ago she had severe pains, & bleeding, and had to go to the emergency room. There, it was discovered that our baby no longer had a heartbeat. Devastated doesn't come close to what that feels like.
Unfortunately for people like us, because of the current laws in the state of Texas, that was only the beginning of this nightmare. Jess (my wife) had an "incomplete miscarriage", and what needed to happen, what was best for HER, and her health, was to terminate the pregnancy, and get the baby out.
The doctor gave her a medication that would move this process along, and sent her home. Where, apparently we would be handling it ourselves. We were told it might take a couple of attempts before it worked.
I'll let you decide how you feel about that.
After a long, painful night of the equivalent of early labor, the baby was still with her. So, we went back to the Emergency Center to get the 2nd dose. A new doctor was on call. He was an older man. You could hear him in the hallway as he said, "I'm not giving her a pill so she can go home and have an ab*rtion!". Being well aware that our baby no longer had a heartbeat. Then, he came into the room to say, and I quote: "Considering the current stance. I'm not going to prescribe you this pill". Then, just sent us on our way.
The "CURRENT STANCE"?! Did he really just say that?!
No one should ever have to hear their wife say: "Get this dead baby out of me!".
Can you even imagine how that must feel?
The pain, and the bleeding continued. So, we decided to go to another hospital, about an hour away. There was a female doctor on call there, and we thought we might have better luck.
I should probably mention, the procedure to get the baby out is called a D & C. It's scary, & traumatizing, but sometimes necessary in situations like ours. Especially in emergency circumstances.
So we get to the next hospital. They take Jess in, ask her a bunch of questions, do a new scan... confirm that the baby is still there, with no heartbeat, and then disappear... for hours. Only to come back in and keep asking the same questions over and over. It's becoming clear that they're primary concern is NOT my wife's health. Instead, they seem to be worried about the legalities involved.
So, they decide it is not "enough of an emergency" to perform the D & C.
They do, however, prescribe another, stronger, final dose of the medication for us to try again... at home.
So, we go home to try again. Another long day/night of early labor pains. Only to discover my wife UNCONSCIOUS in the bathroom. Having to pick my wife's cold, limp body off of that bathroom floor, not sure if I was about to lose her, is something I will NEVER forget.
She had to be rushed to the hospital.
By this point she had lost so much blood, and bodily fluid, her body gave out.
They were able to stabilize her, give her the fluids she needed, and we came back home yesterday afternoon. We were also able to confirm that our baby was no longer with her.
Now, not only do we have to live with the loss of our baby... we have to live with the nightmare of what we just experienced because of political and religious beliefs. MY WIFE'S HEALTH SHOULD HAVE COME FIRST. PERIOD!
God knows what mental and emotional damage this has done.
If you consider yourself a staunch "pro-lifer" ... 1) You've never been through what we just went through, and 2) You should take a long, hard look in the mirror and reevaluate your reasons for supporting such a cold, barbaric, ignorant point of view.
It's not that black & white, and it's never going to be.
If you think your "Pray To End Ab*rtion" sign in your yard is "Christian", I suggest you revisit the teachings of Jesus and try again. If you support these laws that make ab*rtion illegal, and result in people being put through what we just were, you should be ashamed of yourself. I've never been so angry, or heartbroken... and the devastation I'm feeling must pale in comparison to what my poor wife is feeling.

[Echo 🔆 @TheEcho13]

The reaction to this video is just another example of how men only want to go 50/50 when it benefits them. I’ve said this over and over again.

The couple in this video both work full time, they both equally share care of their children and they both take care of their own chores themselves or split them evenly. Judging by the rest of her videos, this works well for them because they both contribute to a 50/50 lifestyle.

Living a 50/50 lifestyle means that everything is split. Not just the things that are convenient for a man to split.

The men reacting poorly to this video want to split the traditionally male responsibilities while she maintains 100% of the traditionally female responsibilities. That will never work. That is only ever a burden for women and a benefit for men.

[AskAubry 🦋 🐆🦝 @ask_aubry]

It's been nearly a decade since this Tweet and nothing has changed.

[Cadybug14 @cadybug141]

@alyssaleann This was such a beautiful thread, wishing you and your husband eternal happiness 😭❤️

[AskAubry 🦋 🐆🦝 @ask_aubry]

Dude got mad at an art installation in Mona that did exactly what it was supposed to do, let him experience what it has been like for women being excluded from prestigious places eg Garrick Club or Augusta.

A male judge ruled it wasn't fair to men.

Dudes, that was the point.

[Time Trip @TimeTriping]

@AMAZlNGNATURE Raven teasing a wolf

[Soma @somadwrites]

@AMAZlNGNATURE All my life I thought wolves were like dogs

[Nature is Amazing ☘️ @AMAZlNGNATURE]

A husky next to a wolf. 🤯

My entire life I thought they were the size of dogs. I’ve been heavily mistaken.

[AskAubry 🦋 🐆🦝 @ask_aubry]

True

[chris evans @notcapnamerica]

Matthew Boynton went to have dinner with a colleague at Waffle House. He received a text from his wife Jessica that said “I can’t do this anymore. Take care of the children. Please tell them I love them everyday. I have been suffering for a while now and no one has noticed...

[Echo 🔆 @TheEcho13]

Birth rates are moving dangerously low because women have accidentally orchestrated the biggest modern case of ‘F around and find out’.

Women are told that all they are good for is having children, but also that it’s not enough to make women important. Women are told that they must reproduce to benefit society, but also that they’re ugly, useless and ready to be discarded by the time they reach 40.

Women are told to take on the overwhelming majority of work in the home, to sacrifice the most to care for their family, but if their husbands don’t treat them well enough to keep them, then they are a burden to society and deserve nothing as a result.

Women see all of these talking points every time they open social media or scroll a timeline. Even women who sought a more traditional dynamic are being turned off and reconsidering their desire when they see how men talk about them.

Men asking for stay at home wives and mothers while also saying that her contribution and sacrifice is so minimal to the point of being worthless is abhorrent.

Women know that having and raising children is going to be hard, that they will be living their lives in servitude, and majority of women are happy to do it, but not for men who tell them that it’s all they’re good for. Not for men who tell them that once they’re done having children they’re ‘used up’, that if the marriage doesn’t work out then everything belongs to him, and that doing all of it still doesn’t make them important to society.

Despite pleas for women to start having children again, women don’t want to have children with men who don’t value them, so they’re not.

In a world that doesn’t value mothers while telling women that that’s all they’re good for and reiterating that doing so still doesn’t make women important, women won’t become mothers.

[The Road Jess Travelled @JessPected]

@ask_aubry When we say misogyny is systemic, this is what we mean. The propensity to believe women are dishonest, prone to exaggeration, unreliable, & attention-seekers upholds the systemic oppression & death of women. Racist beliefs about Black women's pain are harming them.

[The Road Jess Travelled @JessPected]

Happy International Women's Day (Mar 8).

Yes, there is an International Men's Day (Nov 19) and like most men's issues, men only care about it when women's issues are raised.