Dalen

I ghostwrite Educational Email Courses for Health & Wellness companies focused on nervous system regulation. 4 happy clients.

[Dalen @calen_darr]

Origin story: when I was 25, I became very ill with Long-Covid, experiencing:

• Severe fatigue
• Pins and needles feeling (all over)
• Existential dread

3 years later, I’m living.

I'm able to run my business.

Here’s what the journey taught me about my nervous system:

🧵👇

[Dalen @calen_darr]

Do the meanings of words change over time?

A friend of mine told me "words mean what they mean."

I think he's right.

Take the word "nice."

It comes from the old French nice, which means stupid or foolish.

So my friend says "Don't be nice. Be kind."

You might think, "Come on, I'm not calling someone stupid when I say they're nice! Obviously the meaning has changed."

But has it really?

I once found one of those strange self help books for men claiming to teach them how to "get" women.

It’s called No More Mr. Nice Guy.

I never got past the first chapter.

But the message of the book was clear:

A lot of us are told as kids to be “nice.”

No matter what, we need to be nice to avoid scary consequences:

• Be agreeable

• Don't rock the boat

• Put everyone else's needs first

• And forget about having personal boundaries

(Anyone here heard of people pleasing?)

It becomes our default mode because we did it to survive.

We become like leaves blowing in the wind of other people’s intent, never truly expressing ourselves, the unwitting victims of circumstance…

Which is stupid. 🤣

It's a blind spot.

It's one of those things humans deal with that makes it difficult to be anything other than foolish.

“Until the unconscious is made conscious it will rule your life and you will call it fate.”

This is the path of the fool.

The path of the child taught to be “nice” no matter what, without knowing the cost, without knowing the real meaning of the word.

As adults, we can see the cost and stop paying it with effort.

Or not.

"But surely the meaning of words changes with time."

Does it?

The French word nice is about 700 years old.

I don't know its origins before that.

It started to mean "agreeable" in ~1769 and "kind" in ~1830.

But to me, this is a superficial change in meaning.

The unconscious meaning is still there, and we're living it.

What we're really seeing in the history of the word "nice" is the shifting conscious (and limited) relationship with the underlying constraint.

It's a kind of illusion.

Nice still points to the fool.

A fool who might learn to be kind.

And to bring this full circle, Kind in German means child.

Different etymological roots, sure, but I couldn't resist the poetry.

TL;DR

• Nice comes from a French word meaning stupid

• Don't be nice, be kind

Please let me know if this resonates or if you have thoughts on the topic!

"I may be a fool, but I intend to be a live fool."

— Mat Cauthon, The Wheel of Time Book 2, Chapter 11: "Glimmers of the Pattern"

[Dalen @calen_darr]

I appreciate the recent follows. Focusing my energy on Linkedin for now. Happy to connect on there.

I'll occasionally pop in here to post things I think people will find valuable.

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@TheArthurKb Hey Arthur. Thanks for this, brother. Kindest comment I've received.

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I'm grateful for everything I write that isn't being read (yet). Because I'll look back in 3 years and remember how I felt, what I struggled with, what I was trying to share with the world.

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@joshsilentmode I don't think it's a conscious choice. I think it's a defense mechanism that gets programmed into their nervous systems by trauma.

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Immature poets imitate; mature poets steal; bad poets deface what they take, and good poets make it into something better, or at least something different. No one on X is original. Say what you need to say.

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I just published How To Start A Daily 30-Min Meditation Habit And Improve Your Resting Heart Rate To Below 50 BPM… https://t.co/LnB9Fynboi

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@anas_elfa Yeah, this is real.

You need price anchors.

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@galactivize This is like a psy op cheat sheet. I love it 🤣

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@JonasSiebler Have you heard the song Reflektor by Arcade Fire? This made me think of it 😂

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@ChurrLimm Feels safer though

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@JonasSiebler Lol I'm sure you weren't a piece of shit, but I do take your point

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Just finished helping a client build his first digital product on Skool!

Our plan:

• Get 10 people to join for free
• Implement their feedback
• Sell the product

It's showing real estate agents how to run open houses for agents w/ multiple listings to achieve 2 things:

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@breathe__better @heydannybauer let's figure this out

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Wildest thing the Dalai Lama ever said:

Someone asked him the meaning of "om mani padme hum"

His reply?

(I'm paraphrasing)

"Doesn't matter. Chant 'Coca-Cola' if you want."

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@creatorjan_ this slaps

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@galactivize but...but how?

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@galactivize 😂 preach