Many modern women are simulacra of real women.
I often see quoted the blessed words of the Messenger ﷺ
فَاظْفَرْ بِذَات الدّين تربت يداك
"Marry the one with religion, then you will have succeeded/gained victory"
This is absolutely true. However, it's to be noted that prior to this was mentioned something else.
تُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ لِأَرْبَعٍ
"You may marry a woman for four (reasons)"
لِمَالِهَا وَلِحَسَبِهَا وَلِجَمَالِهَا وَلِدِينِهَا
Her wealth, her rank, her beauty, and her deen
People skip over this very critical portion.
الْمَرْأَةُ
A woman.
In order to properly understand what this means, we must first define woman according to our Islamic frame of reference and considering cultural contexts because we cannot talk about a Hadith without the context of that Hadith.
Most women in the past by default were known to be feminine, submissive, and gave great honor and respect to people who had authority over her including her husband, father, uncles, and brothers. This was taken by default. You could not find a woman, bar exceptions, Muslim or Non Muslim, who did not submit to authority. It was default and thus never needed to be discussed.
This is not the case today and I see many young men fall into the trap of looking for religiosity in a woman without first looking into the initial descriptors of what makes a woman.
This is why you will often see young Muslim men find "a woman", with deen, who then tell you horror stories about how she is in the relationship even though she's otherwise pious. She may have been, "a woman", but, she was a simulacra of one.
These women often lack the default attributes of what initially was assumed of women. All you need to do to observe this phenomenon is spend a week on Muslim Twitter, Instagram, or TikTok. Or perhaps witness the explosive rise in multiple divorced single women who decide to become Muslim therapists and counselors.
Feminism has done such a number on modern women that they many have become a simulacra, a distant representation of what is a woman. NPC's who simply follow whims and desires and fads to determine what they want out of life or out of themselves or out of marriage.
(As with all my posts, I speak in generals, not specifics and the above may or may not apply to you and the people you know, but this is a generally observed phenomenon on a larger scale which requires a solution from both men and women.)
@kidsmart801 Haven't seen any redpill guys rejecting Islam or trying to reinterpret clear text..have seen these from feminist. Redpillers accept islam whereas feminist leave Islam.
@kidsmart801 @99DivineNames @muslimser And if u say to them what they are asking isn't inline with Islam, they will say that's your interpretation buy according to our interpretation it's allowed or that was for that time now things different
@kidsmart801 @99DivineNames @muslimser Muslim feminist say they don't reject Islam, infact they just want their islamic rights, they will say Islam is fair but misogynist men distorted text & didn't gave women their rights..& then they will demand all kind of liberal feminist "rights' contrary to Islam /1
@SamQari "we just want our islamic rights, yet we are called feminist" then proceed to demand all sorts of non Islamic staff, changing clear Quranic text & authentic hadith by saying according to my interpretation...