Girls, please PICK THE GENTLE ONE. The kind one. The one who brings you peace. The protective one. The one who is sure of you. The one who respects you. The one who understands your silence. The one who sees your heart without judgement. The one who holds your dreams with care.
For years I was an “over-understander”
I tried to understand where everyone was coming from. Made excuses. Told myself things would change. I thought it was my responsibility to accommodate.
In reality, my responsibility is: to take care of me.
Not to decode other people’s behavior.