chacha

I try to be updated with what happen that surrounding in this world. So what I RT, quotes is not means I agree.
Different of view, opinion and reference is ok.

[chacha @cansdos]

My 2022 goals : MAKE HABIT

1. To finish all bootcamp and class
2. To finish japan exam
3. To build healthy habit from exe, food, and socializing
4. I hope next year I can enroll my 2nd semester in UT.

[chacha @cansdos]

Jdi memang jika udh punya isu, sadar dan mau berubah pola2, unlearn pattern dsb. Yg diperlukan adalah melatih, merubah pola neuronya dgn cara yg beda2.

Kuharap buat kita yg lgi berjuang, yg mencoba baik pada diri sendiri selalu diberikan kesabaran dan tenang yg byk❤️❤️❤️

[chacha @cansdos]

Iya, when you only come when the peak ya ga cuman intervensi dan akan mengulang pola. Kejadian krn udh 2x ke trigger, sekarang begitu kejadian lagi.

Psikolog wanti2 kalau ini long process, dan hrs banyak sabarnya. Nanti akan dikurangi sesinya ke depannya. When you are stable.

[Prasetja @prasprasetja]

For lack of better words, gue suka ngejelasin intervensi psikologi macam konseling dan psikoterapi itu macam minum antibiotik.

Especially kaalu lu udah punya kondisi masalah/gangguan jiwa.

Bukan kayak analgesik yang bisa dikonsumsi pas butuh aja, unless stated otherwise ya.

[chacha @cansdos]

Psikologku yg sekarang, harapannya bsa lepas dri sesi konsul ketika sdh sadar, paham & bisa meregulasi.

🤣🤣walau entah knp buatku malah annoying loh. Eh sadar attachment muncul krn ruang yg aman untuk bicara.

Terus di-info maybe kebutuhannya buat maintenance aja kedepannya.

[chacha @cansdos]

4. Lihat pola-pola kehidupan yg di-inginkan. Klau suka bergerak krn itu will make you more peace, mulai dgn olahraga bru. Nanti ketemu orangnya, ketemu dopaminenya.
5. Tidur yg cukup, makan yg enak dan jdi autentik sama diri sendiri is enough. Bener deh, ga semua sanggup menerima

[chacha @cansdos]

Akan sangat detail nih.
1. Sayangi diri lebih banyak - temuin self lovenya!!
2. Cari root cause problemmu, traumamu dan sakitmu lalu perlahan pulih. — dokter, psikolog, psikiater yg cocok itu worth untuk dikulik.
3. Kasih ruang untuk kesenangan, new goals dan new friends.

[Maa @komaduatitik]

Kakak-kakak 30 ke atas.
Beri aku nasehat untuk memasuki usia kepala 3

[ega @fluoxetan]

loving someone with BPD can sometimes feel like a lose-lose situation. you love them, they fear you’ll leave, and then they leave. you pull away, they fear you have abandoned them, then they leave. you give them attention, it feels overwhelming, and then they leave. you dont give enough attention, it can feel like rejection, and then they leave

[Vandel —🃏 rest @kuronushe]

Anak HARUS bertindak seperti anak-anak, soalnya ada banyak proses pembelajaran dan pemasangan fungsi otak, motorik, sensorik, sama emosional yang terjadi di sana. You can't expect them not to act like a kid when they're, in fact, just a kid.

[chacha @cansdos]

Banyak doa dan harapan baru.
Terutama mimpi master dan ganti kewarganegaraan dalam 5 thn ke depan. Semoga bgt semua luka batin dan fisik sembuh, mampu dimampukan, ketemu sahabat yg jdi temen ampe death memisahkan baru dpt pasangan dgn semua parameternya.

[𝘺𝘻𝘢𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘢𝜗𝜚˚⋆*⋆: ♕︎ @gruesomegf]

in honor of suicide prevention awareness month, what are some reason you haven’t killed yourself?

[acin @acinxoxo]

guys plis bantu repost, disini lagi chaos parah😭bbm antrian sampai 1km lebih, fasum transum tdk ada, mati listrik tiap hari 6-8jam, air bersih dan LPG langka TOLONG KAMI JUGA MASIH INDONESIA😭😭
klau saja ini terjadi dijawa pasti sudah cepat dicarikan solusi sayang kt anaktiri😔

[chacha @cansdos]

Doa gue terakhir apa ya?

[chacha @cansdos]

Buku ini yg bahasa Indonesia aja bikin gue ga bergerak 8 jam saking seringnya indahnya😭😭😭😭

[grumpy daebi @marchsunshineee]

coba deh baca buku the lord of the ring, aku yg kecil potterhead waktu baca buku-bukunya tolkien langsung wth ada yg lebih rich & magical, even sampe bahasa & kosmologi dibikin sendiri sm tolkien. beneran GOAT.

[chacha @cansdos]

Kak makasih ya buat insightnya.

Akan aku bawa ke sesiku sama psikolog selanjutnya. Sekarang aku tahu when i become friends and tried to repair is not wrong tho. Tapi keputusan untuk cut off itu diperlukan buat hilangin sinyal mrk🙏

Terima kasih is really needed

[𝙰𝚛𝚢 𝙷𝙷 @AryHHAry]

Slogan “collective care” jadi kosong kalau orang hanya nongol pas butuh, lalu cut off begitu tersinggung dikit, dan kalau salah malah defensif pake kartu trauma, zodiak, atau “aku lagi healing.”

Bkn soal morali orang.. tapi soal mekanisme relasi. Konflik tanpa perbaikan yg diterima, jauh lebih merusak drpd konflik itu sendiri.

Cut off tanpa resolusi kelihatannya “jaga diri”, padahal itu lebih dekat ke gagal recover.

Lalu kenapa banyak orang langsung bangun benteng?
Attachment avoidance berkorelasi negatif dgn interpersonal trust, dan efeknya lebih kuat drpd attachment anxiety.
Pola klasiknya: jaga jarak, turunkan kedekatan, mundur begitu ada gesekan.

Menurut data, orang dgn avoidance tinggi cenderung memberi maaf yg lebih tipis dan lebih banyak justifikasi. Bkn krn mrk jahat. Krn kerentanan terasa mahal, jadi yg keluar adalah dalih.

Katanya juga defensiveness naik saat identitas moral terancam. Ada 2 reaksi setelah salah:
- self-forgiveness asli: akui tanggung jawab, trus berubah
- self-exoneration: memperkecil kesalahan, geser salah ke konteks, trauma, “aku juga korban”

Trauma bisa menjelaskan knp reflex-nya cut off. Tapi penjelasan bkn izin untuk berhenti koreksi diri. Kalau setiap gesekan ditutup dgn identitas luka, yg hilang justru kapasitas bersinggungan dgn manusia lain yg sama2 cela.

Jadi katanya collective care itu bkn hanya “hadir pas seneng, hilang pas berat, putus pas tidak nyaman.”
Itu perawatan selektif.
Perawatan yg kolektif butuh 1 kemampuan yg paling jarang dilatih: tetap di situ cukup lama untuk 1 putaran repair.

Pertanyaan utk yg lagi di tengah gesekan (teman, kerja, komunitas, pasangan):
Reflex terakhir kamu pas tersinggung itu cut off, atau kamu masih nyoba 1 langkah perbaikan dulu?

*Hasil diskusi2 dgn konselor saya selama bbrp tahun terakhir juga selain baca2 tulisan Pak @bennysiauw89

[chacha @cansdos]

Makanya postan kak benny itu udh paling bener. What i type in here is my stories apakah gue punya kapasitas membantu, tidak. Apakah gue punya kapasitas blaming his n friends, tentu tidak. Krn gue ga pernah tahu the whole stories tho.

Tpi witch hunt won’t never been good tho.

[chacha @cansdos]

Sebagai orang yg lgi belajar pulih & memulihkan serta merawat diri ya. Being know that we are is need help and in not stable condition is must to do.

Kalau ga ya nanti merusak semuanya, trigger itu juga hrs di-cari root causenya. But is not justify they hurt us we can hurt them.

[Benny Prawira Siauw @bennysiauw89]

If you truly care about suicide prevention, please stop the witch hunting, please stop digging and milking the theatrics. Be respectful to those who are bereaved without giving loaded questions, suspicion, and unnecessary speculations while empathizing with F’s situation is necessary, it is an ethical stance we need to have as a decent human.

This being said, I would also like to address that while his feelings are valid, but his plan to share the whole details that potentially leads to witch hunt are not. Feeling hurt does not justify a free pass to hurt others. We need to be mindful that the targeted scheduled posts has the potential to be harmful and unsafe, not only to those targeted but also to those who are vulnerable and depressed, these can be very triggering.

After all, there is no way we can know all the things that had taken place, thus why we need to stop digging this rabbit hole, give more respect to those who have are bereaved and vulnerable to copycat suicide.

[Isyana Artharini @bookishglam]

might be unpopular opinion with most replies & quotes: as i get older i realise that every one’s got enough shit in their heads & there will be more shit, but if they’re your friend & you care about them, you should still show up for them even with the shit in your head

[chacha @cansdos]

Kenapa buat gue ignorant because the felt i feel at the time is coming from them. I speak, they hear, but i don’t felt seen. So yeah if you close enough as a friend. Talk and communicate is one that needed if is repeated said it that we not match tho.

[chacha @cansdos]

Gue bilang temen gue elu ignorant kalau lu dgn sadar bilang gini. Yes, it is krn semua manusia itu ada masa up n down. Masalah dlm diri itu kadang lu perlu reach out, lu perlu rasa aman dan orang2 yg elu reach out krn rasa aman itulah yg jdi safety net mu sebelum bounce back lgi.

[chacha @cansdos]

And always will be complex. Gue masih berusaha menerima bahwa

I am is not broken, i am is human beings whose in fact not loving all my part included the bad and crumble me. The myself yg gue ga tahu ternyata will come out when i felt safe. Is hard and still hard for me tho.