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The reason parents are strict and set many rules for children is because they pay for everything. Once you start earning your own money, you usually gain more freedom.
It also applies to relationships. If someone has to pay for everything, don’t expect to be free from control.
As a woman, you will learn to give men who don’t have money grace as soon as you discover that only a few men can be super rich in Nigeria without illegal means; the rest might be average. So crashing out on broke men means you’re automatically sending him to get it by any means.
So let’s just say it’s a Man’s “Future” that matters for Women ?
But the moment we say it’s a Woman’s ‘Past’ that matters for us Men instead
Then it becomes w@r time.
I have worked with a millionaire (in dollars) who claims he succeeded out of luck & that fool works HARDER than I (or most people I know) do - and they don’t have a drop of the kind of money he does, I literally couldn’t catch up working with the guy.
Elumelu knows that this luck thing is what Nigerians want to hear, makes us feel good - like “hey, I am where I am because I don’t have that much luck”. It maybe true. But…
…again, I will tell you this; luck is influenced by positioning and positioning is influenced by bloody work and input - plus the difference in input between people who are top on their field and everyone else is INSANE.
I remember an incidence that happened some years back. Might be a bit long, so just scroll past if you don’t have time for one of my numerous nonsense experiences in life.
So I landed at MM2 a tad late. Say past 11pm ,and booked a car hailing service (name withdrawn) to head to my house then at Ago palace way. Driver arrived and we got the trip started. Just after we passed Sam Ethnan airforce gate, I noticed a sudden but unnecessary swerve, so I stopped punching the keypads on my phone to observe further.
We got to the roundabout before the toll gate, and he almost missed it, so I knew driver was dozing off, and I asked him to park on the sides. Pleaded with him to allow me drive while he took a power nap to help him clear up, and he agreed.
This was after he’d told me how he was hustling to meet up funds to send to his second daughter that was in school and needed some text books. Man said he hadn’t slept a wink in over 48hrs bruh.
He slept all through the journey. We got to my compound, and I asked if he’d eaten. He said he had fufu and Egusi for breakfast, and that usually carried him the whole day. I got us some suya and can beers.
I wanted to still be sure he wasn’t lying, so I asked him to show me the list of books his daughter sent him that she needed. She was supposedly studying anatomy, and for someone that did medicine for a few years, the books were clearly lies mehn. Just made up names to take money from a hustling father.
I mean, some of us did all of that, but at least our dads didn’t have to sleep on the wheels for the coins.
Of course I didn’t tell the man. That would have broken him. I just added 20k to his charge and transferred to him (don’t judge, that was what I could spare at the time).
He was grateful and asked if he could sleep till break of dawn in his car, as he didn’t even want to come in.
Four Mother’s Days every year and you still chose the only Father’s Day to post your mum.
Nobody cares about your single mum storyline. Fuck off and let the day be about fathers for once.
There was a period in 2022 that I was so broke and I sold all of my gadgets to be able to eat and sort some bills.
I downgraded my 12 pro max to XS Max
I sold my 55 inches TV
I sold fridge
I sold sound system
I sold 3 ACs
I sold water dispenser
I sold vacuum cleaner
I was left with my cooker, washing machine
My sitting room feels so empty
All these in the space of 7 months immediately this girl came into my life.. crazy
Ordinary 1m naira feels like I’m looking for 50m. Even the barest minimum work that would normally pay me $1,000 stopped.
That moment, I know those people aren’t taking it lightly with me 😨
who are they? I don’t know 🤷
All I know is that they are dealing with me.
I broke up with this girl and 3 weeks later, I recovered all, all, all, I mean all, with just one deal and plenty prayer. (I went to the mountain to pray and fast)
Since then, I’m always careful of any girl coming into my life, be it friend or relationship.
1 month with you is enough to know the spirit energy you bring into my life.
God is good.
“I got rich by luck!
At times you don’t come out best in class cause you’re the fittest or most energetic, sometimes you need luck and I’m a product of luck”
—Tony Elumelu🤯
It was definitely her idea not to entertain family for more than a week. If it was his own parent that died and his siblings needed a home to stay, the rule may not be revoked.
Rules like this is a blatant red flag. Only evil people make those rules. The silent part of the rule is usually "your family."
Until you date a generous and responsible woman, you will never understand how much women love spending on the man they love and being financially responsible to the family.