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[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Before 2020, I was always leaving the house every day of the week to work.

Sometimes, I would return home at 8 or 9pm.

Once I enter the house, my wife would welcome me.

On the TV, she would be watching one movie or series.

Then she will change the channel to CNN or BBC for me and ask me to go shower and have dinner.

"This is what you stay at home all day to do. Watch Telemundo or Zee world. You stay at home all day doing nothing. I go out every day to earn money to provide you for you and these children. Lazy woman!"

She won't say anything to me.

She'll go to the kitchen and wait for me to shower before dishing out my food.

I would notice that her eyes were blurry.

In the morning, I would be off by latest 6:30 am.

One day, I came back home, and my wife said that she wanted to discuss with me.

"Sweetie, I am depressed. I want to go back to work. I feel like I am useless in this marriage and I am not contributing anything to it. Please, help me find a job"

I blasted her and told her that I got a job without her, and I used my qualifications to apply, and that she should do same.

My wife cried so much that night.

Then came covid 19...

My office had asked us to start working from home.

Monday to Friday, I was home working.

My kids were still going to school under strict covid rules.

I started studying my wife more.

This woman was not resting.

I figured that she was only watching those series or shows just to stay awake to welcome me back home.

She was busier than I was.

She showed me what it meant to have a wife who is a housewife.

One day, I could not take it anymore.

"Baby, you have been asking me to pay you monthly salary, I think you're right. I will be giving you the money"

Covid made me appreciate my lovely wife, more.

Despite dating her for 9 years, I still could not see that God had blessed me enormously.

Because I was carried away by my female colleagues that were age mates with me and working.

And I wanted my wife to "fit in".

I was wrong.

That was why in 2021, I came here to write that a housewife that is playing her role effectively and efficiently without bringing a dime is not a liability.

It took me years into marriage to realize this.

My lovely wife is a hard worker.

And I have seen and still seeing the results of her hardwork on our lovely children.

Our children are so smart and they're high flyers in their schools.

Not only that, they are well behaved and very respectful and contented with what they have.

All made possible because of my lovely wife.

As a man, if you have a wife like mine, please be kind and be patient with her.

Yes, she may not be bringing money, but that's not her primary role or responsibility.

Your Lovely wife is more valuable to you than the money that you hope to be getting from her.

Only if you will open your brain and mind to understand me.

End.

[NneChukwu! @Okeke_Uz]

You need to pay attention to how your spouse behaves when frustrated, because it will tell you more about the person than all the charm they showed when everything was going their way.

Courtship is a season where a lot of people put up their best behaviour, but marriage is a long season where the real person finally comes out to play.

Every couple has a quarrel that reveals something.

A husband who insults his wife in front of the children over every little issue is clearly showing you how he handles disappointment, and a wife who gives the silent treatment for days after an argument is also showing you how she handles hurt.

Nobody wakes up one morning and invents these habits. They were learnt in the homes we grew up in, and we digested them and carried them into our marriages.

For instance, when a husband is raised watching his father walk out whenever his mother challenged him, he learns that leaving is how a man handles conflict, and so he runs to his "boys" every time his wife raises an issue.

When a wife grows up hearing "Because I said so" as an order from her mother, she learns that questions are rebellion, and so she cannot hear her husband calmly say "I do not like that" without calling it disrespect.

A man raised in a house where the father was never wrong learns that apologising is for the weak, so he would rather buy his wife a wig, a phone, or a new set of jewellery before he says 3 simple words, "I am sorry."

Marriage is like a pot of soup that has been sitting on the fire for years. You can change the bowl, change the table, and even change the room you serve it in, but when the lid is lifted, it is the same soup.

If it was bitter in the first year and nobody addressed it, then 20 years later you will find that the bitterness has become more concentrated.

And we make it worse by excusing it. Someone will give the silent treatment, expecting the other person to feel the impact of a mistake made, and yet we say "he is just quiet."

A spouse will talk condescendingly to us and sometimes extend it to our family, and we will say "she is only expressing herself." Even when someone refuses to own mistakes that should be addressed, we say "he is a proud man."

Then we start moving from church to church, praying and fasting, asking the Almighty to change a person who has never been asked to change, and who has never been shown what changing looks like.

Frustration is not the enemy of a marriage. How we behave inside it is.

Two people can be equally angry. One will say "I am upset, let me calm down and we will talk," while the other will throw words that take years to heal.

The difference is not love, because both of them may love deeply. The difference is emotional maturity, and it can be learnt at any age.

A simple question like "What is it that I do when I am angry that hurts you?", asked calmly and followed by listening without defending yourself, does wonders in tense moments.

Learn to apologise first, even when you feel you were only 50% wrong, because the other 50% will rarely arrive if you wait for it, and things will keep deteriorating.

Saying "I need a moment" instead of just vanishing is healthier for your marriage.

And if you are still searching for a spouse, do not be carried away by how well someone behaves on a good day. Take time to study and watch them when they are tired, embarrassed, or not getting their way, because that is when the family they came from and it's dynamics reveal itself, and it is that person you will be coming home to for the next 40 years of your life.

[Cappello @captainCappello]

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[Cappello @captainCappello]

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[Cappello @captainCappello]

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[Cappello @captainCappello]

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[Cappello @captainCappello]

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[Cappello @captainCappello]

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[The married man @marriedmn]

A warning to all men.If you marry wrong, you will suffer.

Don't be a fool.Don't be a simp.Don't let your lust drive you into a lifetime of misery.

Marry a bad woman, and you will curse your own existence.

_Don't marry a woman who never watched her mother cook happily for her husband.

-Don't marry a woman who never saw her mother wash her husband's clothes, sweep the floor for him, make his bed, and treat him like a king.

-Don't marry a woman who never saw her mother respect, honor, and submit to her husband.If she never witnessed her mother serving a man, she will not serve you.She will fight you.She will challenge you.She will rebel against you.

Such women have no training and no blueprint on how to be a wife.They have been programmed to compete with men.

Marry her, and you will live a nightmare.Your life will burn to ashes.Avoid women raised by single mothers, divorced homes, and broken backgrounds.
These women are filled with bitterness, trauma, and a deep hatred for men.They see men as oppressors, not leaders.

They are raised to think like men, act like men, compete like men, but expect to be treated like queens.
These are the same women who will divorce you, take your children, take your money, and leave you in https://t.co/sZbjCDwv1r not ignore this warning.

Vet her background. Watch how she talks about men.See if she values marriage or just wants a wedding.Because here's the cold truth.A fruit does not fall far from the tree.

A disrespectful mother raises a disrespectful daughter.A rebellious mother breeds a rebellious daughter.A man-hating mother creates a man-destroying daughter.
A woman raised in a house of chaos will bring chaos to your home.A woman raised in a house of war will make your life a war zone.A woman who never saw marriage work will never make marriage work.
This is not a game it is life or death.

[Gia Macool @GiaMMacool]

Your husband is the only person who ever loved you purely by choice.

Your family was already written into your story.

Parents loved you because you were theirs.

Siblings stayed because you shared blood.

Even your child is there because you’re the mother.

But your husband walked in as a complete stranger.

No obligation.
No duty.
No shared past.

He could have built a life with anyone else.

Yet he chose you.

Chose to grow old with you.

Chose to call you home.

That kind of love is never automatic.

It is a daily, deliberate decision to stay, especially when it’s hard.

So never forget to thank the man who still chooses you every single day.

[NneChukwu! @Okeke_Uz]

Dear Husband,

A woman does not decide to be your wife and choose to be faithful because you are Mr. Perfect. She is faithful because she is a woman of character.

She chooses you every day because she honours her vows, even on the days you are difficult to love. She protects your home because that is the kind of woman she decided to become, it's not because you have never given her reasons to do otherwise.

But don't mistake her character for a reason to become careless.

Don't assume that because she is not the type to cheat, she no longer needs your affection and don't believe that because she stays, she no longer needs to be pursued.

A woman can remain loyal while slowly withdrawing her heart.

Nature does not tolerate empty spaces. If you stop investing in your marriage, she may not seek another man, as a lot of people are quick to think, but she will find somewhere else to pour herself. She may bury herself in work, lose herself in motherhood, devote herself to church or build a life where you are no longer at the centre of her joy.

One day, you may wake up to realise that she is still your wife, but no longer your closest companion.

Don't let it get that far. It doesn't have to.

Listen when she speaks, especially when her words make you uncomfortable. Notice the sacrifices she no longer mentions. Thank her for the things that have become so normal you barely see them anymore.

Hold her hand for no reason. Laugh with her. Pray with her. Date her long after the wedding. Make memories she will still smile about twenty years from now.

Become the safest place she knows.

A loyal wife is one of God's greatest gifts to a man, but even the strongest marriages do not thrive on loyalty alone.

Strong marriages thrive on intentional love, mutual honour, daily kindness and the decision to keep choosing each other every single day.

Meet her loyalty with your own.

Meet her commitment with presence.

Meet her love with firm leadership that serves, not one that controls.

Do that consistently, and your marriage will become a place where two imperfect people make each other feel secure in a world that offers very little certainty.

Something many people spend a lifetime searching for.

Have an amazing Sunday.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Let me say this to married men.

If you lose your job and you have some savings that you want to use to start a business so as to sustain your family.

Please do not invest in your wife's business with the hope that it would bring in more money to be sustaining the home.

Go and look for something to do with your savings to be providing for your family by yourself.

You don't invest in your wife's business when you do not have yours.

Unless she is willing to make you a share holder and have control over what happens in the business.

End.

[Cappello @captainCappello]

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[Cappello @captainCappello]

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[Cappello @captainCappello]

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[Fabrizio Romano @FabrizioRomano]

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…Man City staff members then told him to take it off with 20 mins still to go and 4-0 result.

[Oku @oku_yungx]

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ROI = 16.7%

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Monthly: 83.5m / 12 months. = 6,958,333 million.

Daily: 6,958,333m / 365 days =228,767 Naira.

At the tail of the year, return the capital back to the owner with interest. Re-invest your compound interest.

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[Cappello @captainCappello]

@tolathebaddest Hi

[Helen Casanova | Seduction Palace @HelenCasanova_]

A retired marriage counselor revealed what makes wives lose respect and attraction to the husband they once chased.

He said: "It's usually 8 silent behaviors men repeat daily."

Every man should hear this…..

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

You're providing for your wife, and sometimes, she disrespects you.

Then imagine when you can no longer provide?

Especially when the kids are still young.

Your wife may not necessarily cheat on you because you can no longer provide.

But you'll never deny that you will not notice the silent but loud disrespect & lack of submission that you'll experience.

Some wives have more patience than others.

Some may be lean, and others may be fat.

But what is more important for you as a man, is that you hold on to God and ask him to show you mercy, and change your situation before the disrespect becomes loud and bold.

If you are banking on the hope that she will "love" you, just as you love her, you'll be shocked.

Women don't love men.

They are only in love with what you can provide for them.

And this is why I keep telling you young men that transactional relationships are unhealthy.

Women will always love money.

But how you dated her, molded her without money, would go a long way in saving your marriage, should the unfortunate happen to you.

And almost every man would witness downtimes in his finances.

It could be early in your marriage or late in your marriage.

If it happens late in your marriage, do not think that your wife would continue to remember all your years of sacrificing and providing for her, till forever.

At some point, she would run out of patience, and you would start to experience another side of her.

So, what do you do as a man, when things go south for you?

First, if you're jobless as a married man, stop sitting at home.

Go out to wherever to find something to do to bring little money.

Even if the money is not enough to provide for the needs of your wife and kids.

Walka for nothing better pass to sidon for nothing.

Second, swallow your pride, and do not turn down any job offers because you feel it's beneath you.

As long as the job is legitimate, it would keep your mind and soul hopeful and would make your wife see you as that man that believes in providing for his family, even if what you're providing is not enough.

Thirdly, accept that certain things wound change in the dynamics of your home. But as long as your wife has not crossed the red line, remain in your marriage and be a father to your kids.

If your wife wants to use her hands to ruin the marriage because you're no longer the major provider, let it be her decision.

Lastly, if your wife decides to support you without rubbing it on your face, learn to appreciate her, but always remind her that what she's doing for you is a debt.

Even if you may never be able pay the debt.

Like I said, everything that you would witness in your marriage when it comes to finances, depend on how you led your wife during your relationship days.

Because that's the foundation.

Provision is a man's shield, and his ego is his weapon.

End.