this is why i find the conversation around people pleasers supposedly being manipulative & spineless to be flat, reductive, harmful, & ultimately unhelpful. displeasing people can & DOES lead to consequences that disproportionately affects neurodivergent people.
lightwashing a character that experiences colourism and casting her as biracial, basing a story on yoruba mythology but casting a south african lead with no connection to the culture alongside no leading women of west african descent… it was always going to be a chop
i actually HATE when progressive men start talking about pick mes and women who uphold patriarchy because they can never do it without sounding like incels.
let the feminists handle the pickmes, as a man your focus should be educating other men about why the patriarchy sucks.
I think any man who isn’t actively disturbed and angry because of the existence of patriarchy and how it affects marginalized genders, and isn’t an active traitor to his own patriarchal interests, isn’t in a position to whine about how patriarchal straight women are.