I seriously Retweet A LOT, beware or turn that off specifically in "...". The Body Keeps the Score but the head keeps forgetting it. Tweets in EN/PT. 🌈. BLM.
Autism is a disability.
It’s not quirky or cute (though there are things I love about myself that come from my Autism as well)- it’s, by definition, something that impedes my functioning on a daily basis.
Don’t believe me?
Here’s my top ten “unpalatable autism traits”
1. I can’t maintain friendships. I want friends and I crave connection, but I do not have the skills to keep friends without outside structure (school, work, mutual friends) keeping us together. I’m lonely a lot and I envy people who have multiple good friends- or even one best friend.
2. My meltdowns are humiliating and damaging. Sometimes I hurt myself. Sometimes I break things- things I like, and wanted to keep. Sometimes I have suicidal ideations. I experience intense shame after I have a meltdown.
3. My sensory sensitivity to lights is debilitating- I get migraines, panic attacks, nausea and dizziness from brief exposure to box lights (like the ones in Walmart or Home Depot). Until I started wearing rose-tinted glasses, I just accepted that going grocery shopping was going to make me feel sick the rest of the day.
Salmo 54 :para quebra de crenças
Salmo 7 : para limpeza e cortes seja lá o que você quiser
Salmo 65 : para abrir caminhos financeiros (minha consulente conseguiu emprego com esse salmo)
Salmo 132 : para procrastinação
obrigada de nada 🙏
How old were you when you learned that just expressing an emotion could be "too much" for the people around you?
Because it's that version of you, that "part," who you still carry around w/ you in your head & heart, that needs your presence & acceptance right now.
I don’t really use frameworks to help people with their emotions anymore. frameworks are fun to study but they’re usually just a way to avoid the work of “sitting with the feeling you don’t want to feel” and “facing the truth you don’t want to accept”
the neurodivergent obsession with trying to figure out why someone did what they did. replaying it. analyzing it. asking your friends. asking your therapist. asking your friends again. because your brain literally cannot accept that some people are just cruel for no reason.
Things that can lower histamine:
➥ Vitamin E
➥ L-theanine
➥ Progesterone
➥ Magnesium
➥ PEA (Palmitoylethanolamide)
➥ Luteolin
➥ Negative air ions
➥ Thiamine
➥ Lidocaine
➥ Diamine oxidase (DAO)
➥ Copper
➥ Vitamin C
➥ Vitamin B6/P5P
Things that can elevate histamine:
➥ Estrogen
➥ Endotoxin
➥ Hypothyroidism
➥ High parathyroid hormone
➥ Endorphins/ opiates/ opioids
➥ Calcium deficiency
➥ Hypoglycemia
➥ Polyunsaturated fatty acids
➥ High free fatty acids (stress, fasting, low carb)
➥ Lipid peroxidation of those fatty acids
Many of these depend on the context, on why histamine is high.
Similarly, a lot times you don't need to say a character "decided" to do something, unless the act of decision-making is the point. Like "began" this is mediating the action in a way that can make it less impactful and immediate.
he decided to turn back > he turned back
Something less understood about the Kegan stages is you're *supposed* to continue to use lower stage thinking even when you have access to higher stage thinking. It's "right tool for the right job" - reaching for what's most adaptive for the situation.
Problem is, progressing stages costs a lot - it takes a long time and requires a reorganization of your sense of self. It's somewhat necessary to shun 3-patterned thinking (so irrational! so low agency!) in order to build a habit of 4-patterned thinking (very discipline! much optimized!) So by the time you're solid in a mental reorganization, you see the previous one as definitively wrong and bad.
What's kind of funny is that a lot popular self-work is actually reintegration of a lower stage in disguise. Like a lot of what Joe Hudson teaches is how intelligent try-hards in 4 can reaccess their stage 3 intuition and ease. Because absolutely there's a time and a place for scientific inquiry or rigid rationality, but it's not the whole picture or the right tool for every job.
As an autistic, one thing that drives me crazy is that feeling when someone DOES NOT like you, but they are “nice” to your face. They even “added” you on social media, but your interactions with them just seem “off”. You watch how they communicate with actual friends they respect vs. how they communicate with you, & there’s a VERY noticeable difference. But you still can’t pinpoint why or how or if you are just imagining it. But your gut is screaming otherwise..
this is a pattern that comes up in coaching a lot. someone will say “i promised myself when i was…” or “i can’t disappoint my younger self”
i usually ask them “what makes you let a 10/13/18-year-old make your life decisions?” or “what makes you trust the opinions of someone who lacked the context and experience you’ve gained over the last 2 decades/2 years/2 months over your own?”
to some degree, learning how to intellectually articulate your condition is helpful. it is *not* helpful for *processing* strongly held emotions, which is a somatic process, mostly. but intellectual articulation can help people who struggle with intuitive understanding of other people’s pain cognitively understand it. the trick is being able to discern who cares and is simply just emotionally handicapped from people who straight up just don’t care and adjusting your efforts with them accordingly
My great Blender tool PSX Retro Tools, which I have been developing and maintaining for many months, is free because:
I'm a big fan of retro PSX graphics because it makes me feel warm nostalgia
I want as many of the same enthusiasts as possible to do their work without delving into the difficult technical jungle, and it was easier for beginners
I've earned a budget from my animations, which I spend on developing this tool
Doctors get long COVID. Doctors' loved ones get long COVID.
We don't often share this publicly, because we're used to being the white coat, not the hospital gown.
Thanks to Dr Molly Phelps for sharing. Wishing her and her husband the best.
https://t.co/Eh2U59kxRV