And yes, an appropriate response to “tell me how to do better” can be, “it’s not my job to educate you. Do the work of justice. Be an ally. Grow. Serve. Learn.”
“I see no color” is not the goal.
“I see your color and I honor you. I value your input. I will be educated about your lived experiences. I will work against the racism that harms you. You are beautiful. Tell me how to do better.”
... That’s the goal.