The idea of a “perfect broken victim” needs to go. It’s incredibly toxic and does not represent survivors. Survivors will always have to live with their trauma. However, it doesn’t define them or their lives. They can live and have fun too without “breaking”.
On Instagram I’ve received messages saying I don’t “seem traumatised” and I must be lying about being abused as I look “too sexy” and like I’m having “too much fun” in my pictures. Yet I have people on Twitter telling me to stop talking about trauma and move on. We can’t win!
It’s very common for survivors to feel empathetic towards their abusers and the need to want to protect them
So if u are a survivor, this is normal and you shouldn’t be ashamed or embarrassed by this
But remember, there is no excuse for their actions and you did not deserve it
Sometimes I find myself feeling bad for my abuser, and worrying about how he’s coping in prison. But then I remind myself that that empathy was never shown to me. (1/4)
A patient challenges the PM over nurses pay. We move into the last week of our ballot for strike action so he needs to listen to patients and nursing staff. I’ve said over and over again - the voice of the nurse is the voice of the patient. Patients know the worth of nurses