Updated list of ppl you should never reconcile with. Eclipse reminder
-habitual liars
-ppl who play in the dark arts and lie about it.
-people who set you up.
-people who chose others over you.
-people who try to manipulate you.
-people who are connected to ppl you don’t like.
-people who have attempted binding rituals, blood sacrifices, love spells, poverty spells, put you in the freezer, put you in the graveyard, made a voodoo doll of you,
-people who are obsessed with you.
-people who want to be you
can’t wait for the day ariana grande wakes the fuck up. idk what this era of hers has been since wicked.. but it’s like she pretends to be too humble now. you have a talent that puts you above the rest. you ARE more talented than your peers AND THATS OKAY. this whole vulnerable song writer shtick is not for her. leave that to taylor and olivia. we want vocals
Reading too much into people’s shit gives them permission to dwell in your mind. Instead of intellectualizing it, try being so confused it doesn’t even make sense to investigate further.
Walk. Read. Be honest. Eat well. Do not drink or do drugs alone. Take care of your appearance, but otherwise do not think of it. Think well of yourself but do not lie to yourself. Go to the gym. Be kind and devoted. Be grateful of everything, even for the blue sky.
The problem is that if people lack the correct psychological idol (i.e. God, truth, the Self, etc.), their wounds will be easily latched onto by parasitic and delusional belief systems, ideologies, trends, and identities.
If you do not hold truth above all else, you will inevitably psychologically succumb to some life-destroying beliefs.
You will log onto social media, and any post, ideology, or trend that makes a wound feel heard will be programmed into you. It will feel true not because it is true, but because it validates something unresolved inside you.
If you do hold truth above all else, you develop the capacity to question even the beliefs that soothe you, validate you, flatter you, or give you someone to blame.
You become willing to discover that the worldview protecting your wound might be false.
Truth becomes more important than being right, belonging to a tribe, preserving an identity, or avoiding pain.
And that makes you extremely hard to program.
The problem is that if people lack the correct psychological idol (i.e. God, truth, the Self, etc.), their wounds will be easily latched onto by parasitic and delusional belief systems, ideologies, trends, and identities.
If you do not hold truth above all else, you will inevitably psychologically succumb to some life-destroying beliefs.
You will log onto social media, and any post, ideology, or trend that makes a wound feel heard will be programmed into you. It will feel true not because it is true, but because it validates something unresolved inside you.
If you do hold truth above all else, you develop the capacity to question even the beliefs that soothe you, validate you, flatter you, or give you someone to blame.
You become willing to discover that the worldview protecting your wound might be false.
Truth becomes more important than being right, belonging to a tribe, preserving an identity, or avoiding pain.
And that makes you extremely hard to program.
Worst thing u can ever do is become a salty, cautious man
No matter how many times u lose, get rejected, try and get humiliated
You cannot allow yourself to turn into those losers that warn you of everything since they tried and lost and quit
You cant quit and start to hate and spread your failure stories to the guys still playing
You must not allow that sore loser to be born
You must remain a player
Only then can you become a winner
Bad economics is always blamed for the fertility crisis, and yes, it certainly doesn't help - but it's not even the central reason. If the average man and woman truly complemented and thereby appreciated one another, they would still have children even with little money.
The core central issue is a lack of polarity between the sexes. The average man is disgusting on some or multiple measures to the average woman, whilst the average woman is contemptible to the average man.
Women in general hold men in low esteem, and think they are either predatorily unsafe, or weak and pathetic, whilst men think women are either predatorily unsafe, or tainted and impure.
So when nobody truly likes, trusts or appreciates one another, of course nobody is going to stay together long enough to breed in a culture that doesn't have tight-knit community based tribal structures which socially enforce and glue together marriages under suboptimal circumstances.
This is why even when governments have trialled tax incentives and other special measures to get their dwindling populations to breed, they've had little to marginal success. If economics were the issue, throwing money at people would get them to have more kids. Economics then isn't really the primary bottleneck, but cultivating an environment where men are respectable (and thus desirable) to women, and where women are adorable (and thus loveable) to men.
Cowardly men and women who hold the opposite sex in contempt (for often valid but also exaggerated reasons) largely do not start families, because they do not merely have high standards that others fail to meet (as they like to tell themselves), but an active, defensive contempt hostile to and thus repellent of the opposite sex, where not being held in contempt makes you the special exception rather than the default norm. So for them to genuinely soulfully like a person, that person has to spectacularly overcome a significant number of inherent biases and unfavourable dispositions to penetrate to the core of that person's romantic being, and whilst this is not exactly impossible and in fact, perfectly possible, it is not scalable. A society cannot maintain replacement fertility rates if everyone operates under the banner of "give me an exceptional outlier for a lover or I won't breed".
This is the true elephant in the room, but it's a lot harder to tackle than simply throwing money at the issue. This is to say nothing of the corporate and big capital markets and their vested interest in keeping women in the workplace, but as pivotal a contributor as that is to the fertility issue, it is not (in my view) even the leading cause.
Simply actually not holding each other in the lowest fucking esteem possible with the maximum amount of suspicion and contempt is, and I believe the only route to fixing that is for us as a population cultivate the beauty in man and the beauty in woman until each sees the other shine and admires them. Effectively, we as a culture must spiritually heal. To the more ruthless and logical amongst you, this may sound wishy-washy or ridiculous. But I am deadly serious. Love and by extension reproduction is a spiritual ordeal, not a business, and therefore not something you can brute force with dominance or money.