You can mock Nigerian girls all you want for lacking communication skills, but the truth is that Nigerian society is generally hostile to honest conversation.
The more Nigerians you deal with, the more you notice a pattern: people avoid saying things directly. They deflect, suppress, and sidestep difficult discussions until, seemingly out of nowhere, there's an emotional outburst.
Many of our siblings, parents, lecturers, bosses, and peers exhibit this trait to varying degrees: avoid, deflect, avoid—then suddenly, get mad.
I used to think I loved helping people because I was just a kind person. Then I learned ADHD brains get dopamine from solving problems, being needed, and making things better. So now I know I am kind and chemically rewarded.
Dating expert says men lose up to 50% of their dating market value after turning 35
“Once you hit like 35, girls are gonna start to think, ‘Why are you 35? You’re not married, you don’t have kids, you don’t have a house?’ Statistically, from the data, let’s say you have your exact profile now and you’re 34 years old and you’re getting 10 out of 10 results. If you just turn 35 or 40, you will see at minimum a 30 to 50% decrease in your results”
“I had a client in New York. He’s a partner at one of the largest Fortune 500 companies here in Manhattan, and he goes to events, networks, like these sort of social events, and there’s an age limit for them, 38 years old. If you’re over 38, you can’t go. They don’t allow people at these events”
I’d say this slowly:
Refuse to let anyone define you by single moments in your life, whether mistakes you made or victories you won. Accept that you are more than both.
Also there’s thing our community does where they benefit greatly from our communal culture, and then want to be individualist when it’s their turn. It’s so unkind.
I’m an eldest daughter which means I’m automatically irritated by your incompetence because I was never given room or grace to be imcompetent. I won’t be elaborating. The daughters who know get it.