@JWokabi if Arsenal steal a win tonight, we can start that conversation about a quadruple, I listened to the entire show #FootballFix today and couldn't help agreeing with you, but if Arsenal steal this, there's at least two more trophies coming IMHO.
#footballfix loving the show, today I caught it from the first minute. @JWokabi I'm curious, do you still dislike this new UCL format. I know you said it's a second bite at the cherry for big teams, but see how small teams are also benefiting, shout out Bodo Glimt and co.
Dr. Russell Barkley, drawing from 20+ years of twin studies, behavior genetics, and neuroimaging: Parenting isn't engineering a blank slate—it's shepherding a unique genetic mosaic already loaded with 400+ psychological traits that emerge mostly on their own timetable.
You provide the pasture: safe, nourishing environments with adequate (not excessive) stimulation, protection from harm, and access to rich out-of-home influences (peers, schools, neighborhoods, community—the biggest shaper after genetics, per Judith Harris in The Nurture Assumption).
But you don't redesign the sheep. No prenatal Mozart, no overload of crib toys turns threshold development into engineered genius. Extra stimulation past basics yields diminishing returns; "more is better" is a cultural illusion, not biology.
Data is stark: Parental influence on core traits peaks before 7, plummets to ~6% in teens, hits zero after 21. Knowledge transfers via exposure—yes. Personality, abilities, temperament? Largely genetics + broader world.
This frees parents from crushing guilt ("If my child struggles, I failed"). Instead: Curate wisely, then enjoy watching the individual unfold. Open the Chardonnay, kick back—the show is brief.
Short of abuse/neglect/malnutrition, in-home tweaks are often trivial next to where you choose to live and the doors it opens.
Shepherd, not engineer. Let them grow into who they already are.
Does this shift relieve pressure—or challenge how you view "success" in raising kids?
*Unhappy Salah blasts Slot. Is this the end for him at Liverpool?
*Arsenal stunned by last minute Buendia goal.
*How good are Villa?
*City back in second
*Chelsea stutter
*Man United's indifferent form.
*Messi won something
*World Cup draw
*Mashemeji Derby
#FootballFix@11am
@JWokabi and the crew on #footballfix always a satisfying listen. Been a while since I was on. You guys really need to consider a digital product for this show, a micro-podcast or something of the sort.
Missed most of yesterday's games, so getting The #FootballFix from @JWokabi and Co. But the online stream keeps chocking... we need this thing as a recorded podcast guys!
We grew up hating day time talk show TVs then spent our days now listening to podcasts... Oprah and Dr. Phil were ahead of their time, true revolutionaries.