I think women who decenter men, center themselves, are strict as fuck about their boundaries/standards, no nonsense, and are okay going prolonged periods of time without male access because of those standards always wind up attracting high quality lovers/partners/husbands in due time. And it winds up being a love that actually LASTS.
I don’t want a soft life because I’m lazy. I want a soft life because I’ve spent most of my life in survival mode. my nervous system has been in fight or flight since childhood and now I’m choosing peace and stability.
start calling yourself out. correct yourself when you're being unnecessarily negative. Mind your business when someone else's choices don't affect you. and hold yourself accountable for the goals you've been putting off.
I’m probably late to this but in the book Odysseus does something more interesting than the arrow. He tells the cyclops his name is “Nobody” so when the neighboring cyclops ask him who hurt him, he says “Nobody is killing me” so they shrug and leave
And it gets better. Nobody in Greek is “outis” but when the other cyclops use the word as a question, the grammar changes outis to mē tis which sounds like mētis = cunning. Homer refers to Odysseus as “polymētis,” man of many wiles. So the cyclops unknowingly say “Cunning is killing him”
But Odysseus wants more credit, he can’t help himself, so he shouts his real name as he sails away. That’s why when the cyclops prays to Poseidon to punish his opp he gets the right guy.
In the movie Odysseus doesn’t say all that, instead he shoots the arrow after the cyclops spits out the helmet. Nolan makes it look like anger/revenge but it’s hubris. The point is that he does something he clearly doesn’t need to do, the result is that more men die and the ones who survive are rightfully more resentful.
If you remember in the cave the crew doesn’t want to abandon the guys who got torn apart or eaten. Odysseus says something like “they died so we could leave, we honor them by leaving.” In both the book and movie, just leaving isn’t enough. Who pays the bigger price? Not Odysseus. His men slowly realize that the guy saving them is the same guy who will get them killed.
What good is wanting to honor the dead if you’re the guy causing it?
Greece is closer to Africa than Dallas is to Austin, but illiterate C students who barely skimmed the Cliff Notes version of The Odyssey in HS, who wouldn't be able to point out Greece on a map, and who fundamentally don't understand the concept of artistic license, are triggered
The quickest way to “get your spark back” is to literally light yourself on fire. You’ve got to burn baby. You’re depressed bc you’re not being insane enough. Double. Down. The world does not reward half ass. All in or out. You’re thinking too small. You’ve accepted your current reality as the only reality. Bullshit. You need to write a list of the most insane asks you could ever dream of. “I am a NYT best selling author. I am the founder of a Fortune 500 company. I paint for a living and I make a damn good living.” Ask and you shall receive. Embody and you become. Flip the fucking script. Your current ceiling is now the floor. Level up.
You need to burn.
"you will die alone" is used against childfree, single women but not against all of the men who abandon their children + move onto dating a new woman every couple of years after the previous one had enough of his behaviours
the figs will rot if you don’t eat them. the jasmine blooms for three weeks and then it’s over. your body at twenty-five will never come back, and neither will your body at forty-five. everything you’re saving for later spoils in the waiting. 1/6
You cannot spend years breaking a child's spirit and then expect a few words in adulthood to repair what took years to destroy. You cannot teach a child to fear your footsteps, your voice, your moods, and your anger, then expect them to see you as a source of comfort later in life
Someone told me family doesn’t make decisions for you based on what is best for you, but rather for their own safety and convenience. Once I realized that, I stopped giving a fuck
telling your brain "i know you don't wanna do the thing and it'll be very uncomfortable for you at first but you can do it buddy. it'll be fine" is actually surprisingly effective. it sounds too simple but that fuckass organ WILL listen to you if you treat it with kindness lol