I heard a therapist say, “Your feelings are always valid, your behavior is not.” She explained by saying feel what you feel BUT you need to be accountable for what you do as a result of those feelings.
Unhealed trauma will sometimes give you a high tolerance threshold to abusive behaviour. Just because you can handle it doesn't mean you have to tolerate it.
most women give men plenty of time to get their act together. women don't give up easily, they actually fight for those they believe in. however, they can't sit around for years waiting for a man who will never change