Chase Pinkerton

|Christ follower|
Husband. Father. Pastor.

[Chase Pinkerton @chase_rian]

@SkippyPetro Agree! We drop dead skins cells by the millions. It's hopeless.

[Chase Pinkerton @chase_rian]

@TexasPreacher I have no argument to present, but what would be your argument against it. Should we turn the ac off too?

[Alex Kocman @AJKocman]

Christianity unashamedly seeks the conversion of every people group in the world to faith in Christ alone.

[Michael Foster @thisisfoster]

Here are four ways wives can improve their relationship with their husbands...

1. Grow in making your needs and desires more explicitly known. Men tend to communicate in a very straightforward linear way. Women not so much. Learning to speak a little “man” will go a long way in improving your marriage. Most husbands are eager to help their wife and aren’t picking up on your subtle hints.

2. Touch him a lot. And it doesn’t even need to be flirtatious touching, though he’ll like that. Men like hugs, kisses, shoulder rubs, you brushing up against him etc. It can be subtle stuff. Your softness keeps him gentle. It can melt and even prevent an anger or cold heart.

3. Tell him you appreciate him and give him a specific example. Most men don’t need a lot of praise. They can run off a little for a long time. But the hard work of leading, providing, and protecting can be a grueling grind. Even the best husband can get discouraged or, worse yet, feel unappreciated by his family. Encourage him. No matter what he says, it would mean the world to him.

4. Be as sexually available as you can. Both men and women have a powerful sex drive. But men experience a much more constant and active sex drive. Women tend to be very cyclical as a result of hormonal changes. You being a consistent source of pleasure and comfort is good for your marriage.

Here are four ways husbands can improve their relationship with their wives...

1. Happily and frequently catch a ride on that “conversational rollercoaster.” Men can tend to expect a conversation to result in a punchline or call to action. Many wives, however, engage in conversation simply for the enjoyment of sharing their experiences with others. Don’t rush the conversation to some forced conclusion. The destination might be the journey. Just enjoy that this woman wants you to be part of her life. Listen intently. Practice asking “then what” or “what else has been going?” She is sharing herself with you. Don’t reject her.

2. Touch her non-erotically. Long hugs, holding hands, and back rubs go a long way. Don’t always try to convert them to sex. Just be with her. Make her feel physically cherished and safe.

3. Just tell her you want to have sex. Don’t walk around secretly resenting your wife for her inability to read your mind. Many wives are more willing than most husbands realize. Just ask. It’s not at the forefront of their minds like it is at yours. If she doesn’t pick up subtle hints, just ask her, “Can we make love?”

4. Be decisive. A busy wife and mother can easily suffer from “decision fatigue.” Dads are often away at work and mom is the one at home to field a thousand requests. The last thing she wants is to have to be the one to make all the hard decisions. Involve her in the process but be the one who is willing to say yes or no, especially in those weighty matters.

All of this assumes you’re living out the basics of a faithful Christian life.

You should be praying for and with one another. You should be prioritizing weekly public worship and maintaining some form of regular family devotions.

If you aren't doing these fundamentals, you should make adjustments immediately.

[Chase Pinkerton @chase_rian]

@joeroganhq Doug Wilson

[Pastor Rich Lusk @Vicar1973]

A few random observations after the Charlie Kirk memorial service:

I wish I was about 30 years younger so I could live for several more decades in the America we are on the cusp of creating. Obviously, things could get derailed. Nothing is guaranteed. But the trajectory we are on is encouraging. The future is bright. The Republicans are stacked with men who would make great Presidents and successors to Trump in carrying forward the MAGA torch. (Vance is my favorite at this point.) More importantly, it is obvious there is a renewed interest in Christian faith, not only as the way of eternal salvation, but as a civilization-building force. This is especially true of young men who have found in Charlie a man worthy of emulation.

Obviously not all the speeches were equally great, but many of them were explicitly Christian and proclaimed the gospel. To hear the VP of the United States openly declare that, "It is better to be persecuted for your faith than to deny the kingship of Christ” was quite amazing. Rob McCoy, Frank Turek, and Marco Rubio gave very clear gospel presentations to millions of people. The Secretary of War declared Jesus’ kingship. Tucker Carlson called on everyone to humbly repent of their own sin. Erika Kirk gave amazingly biblical counsel to men (“Be a leader worth following”) and women (“If you are a mother, that is the single most important ministry you have”). She was a model of what a godly wife should be in that situation. Trump Jr. displayed the kind of common sense we need - like the goal of making one income families the norm again and renouncing political violence. It was very impressive and encouraging overall.

Maybe the most powerful moment was when Erika Kirk talked about how her husband was trying to reach disaffected, missionless young men, precisely like the one who killed her husband. I know some people will criticize her for forgiving the murderer apart from his repentance. But I think that’s nitpicking. We should be willing to forgive, even if the transaction of forgiveness remains incomplete because the offender will not confess and repent, and she demonstrated that willingness. Also, from the sum total of the speeches, it’s obvious that personal forgiveness and civil justice (in the case the death penalty) are not at all at odds. A murderer can be forgiven while still suffering the consequences of his actions. The use of the sword to bless the righteous and terrorize the wicked is clearly built into the MAGA program at this point. MAGA is all about law and order, and restoring the rule of law in our land.

Charlie Kirk’s character and courage were honored. His political convictions were certainly clear in the service. But most importantly, his faith in Jesus was set forth as the center of his life and the key to everything he did. Charlie was honored; but Jesus was honored even more, which is what Charlie would have wanted. Charlie was presented as a Christian who was guided by his faith when he got involved in politics, not someone who instrumentalized his faith for political purposes.

The service showed how much a man with a vision and a work ethic can accomplish. It’s astounding to consider how much Charlie transformed our nation in his all too short life.

What we witnessed in the memorial service was Christian nationalism in nascent, immature form. Not everyone who spoke was a Christian - and Christian nationalism doesn’t require that. But what we saw is even people who do not share Charlie’s faith in Jesus showing open respect for Christianity. Everyone at the service was operating under the Christian gaze.

We cannot make America great again without making America Christian again, which means making America Biblical again. MAGA needs MACA and MABA.

Republicans in the past paid lip service to a god - a vague faith that never got defined. In this service, many politicians were explicitly Christian in their faith. It’s a remarkable shift in a very short period of time.

Whatever Charlie’s eschatology was, he was a practical postmillennialist.

As the left gets more Satanic, the right gets more consistently Christian. The lines are more clearly drawn than ever. The service and the events of the last 10 days clearly demonstrate that.

If ever the Christian right, as the Christian right, as a political movement, was going to resort to the kind of anarchic violence we see on the left, this would have been it. The most famous and popular rightwing Christian apologist was murdered in broad daylight. And yet what do we see? No riots. No gunshots. No violence. Instead, we got a massive prayer meeting in a packed stadium, live-streamed to millions more all around the world. And we saw a wife (now a widow) who forgave her husband’s killer. The two sides are not the same. There is no moral equivalence here.

Reformed Christians might be tempted to look down on the style of worship and music in the service and the imprecise theology on display. We should resist that temptation. What good is mature theology if you don’t enter the fray and get into the battle? Evangelicals charging the gates of hell with slingshots and BB guns are more effective than Reformed Christians who leave their jet fighters in the hangar and their battleships in the dock. An immature theology combined with courage and a willingness to act will always be more effective than mature theology and worship that never enter the fray. Reformed Christians love to be the Monday Morning Quarterback who criticize the normie evangelicals in the arena, but those who are in the arena are the ones through whom God is working to bring change.

Perhaps the most important thing of all is that Charlie Kirk’s legacy was accurately portrayed. Charlie always made clear the cultural, political, and civilizational impact of Christian faith. Charlie was willing to connect the dots in a way that many pastors are not; he linked his faith to his economics, to his convictions about marriage and family, to his views of immigration and nationhood, to his belief in limited government, etc. In other words, he presented the Christian faith as a comprehensive system of truth that works in the real world. He challenged people (especially college students) with a biblical worldview, showing that Christian faith answers coherently and compellingly all the pressing personal *and* political questions of the day. That came through in the memorial service, and for that I am grateful.

[Chase Pinkerton @chase_rian]

@parousia70 @PastorNinja Genesis builds the anticipation of everything that follows. It sets the stage of what is good and right to be remembered as we read the rest of Scripture. You're missing how to distinguish without separating. Things can be different and not seperate.

[Chase Pinkerton @chase_rian]

@rightresponsem Brother, you think that would have made the cut?

[Jeff Durbin @PastorNinja]

A hard truth about a fairly regular phenomenon with divorced women:

It's a notable and regular observation that a divorced woman will begin focusing on her appearance, going to the gym, eating well, beautifying herself, being gentle, warm, and sweet. She tries to be attractive to potential suitors. She focuses on not only how she looks, but, how she comes across. She buys new clothes. She tries to smile more at men she's interested in. She shows interest. She acts gentle and sweet. She tries to be engaging in conversation. She does all the things necessary to attract a man to demonstrate that she is a "catch." She shows interest in men. She works hard at it. She may even remember to flirt with someone she's interested in. She makes her attraction to other men obvious.

All things that she likely abandoned and had no concern for with the man she made a covenant with before God and witnesses. In divorce, there are sins and failures on both sides. Always. Sometimes, there are instances of high-handed victimization (like adultery, abuse, neglect, and abandonment). However, it is interesting to note that oftentimes, the divorced woman begins to live in a way that she refused to live with the man who loved her and committed his life to her. The tragedy is worsened by the fact that she will often do more, after divorce, for an unknown potential man than she was willing to do for the man who committed his life to her. Sometimes, the motivation in her new appearance and manner is to make her ex-husband jealous. However, it only makes him angry and often bitter. Because he knows that she never cared enough for him to do those things. But, she is willing to do it for a faceless, nameless, idea of a potential new husband. He thinks, "Who is this gentle, sweet, engaging, smiling, and beautiful woman who shows attraction to other men?" He forgot what that was like.

This is to say, ladies, it's better to love and pursue the man God already gave you with that energy. Invest in having a romance with the man you already promised to honor. It might turn out very well for you both.

Living like this, after divorce, only shows that your promise to honor your husband wasn't kept. More honor is given to other men than the one who committed to you.

Yes, I have things to say about divorced men, too.

[Chase Pinkerton @chase_rian]

@Brian_Sauve @The_Kings_Hall Question. How do you work out classical Christian education ecumenically? Is apostles creed unity good enough?

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@Katapetasma2 @jchasedavis Try that in your marriage and see how it works. Refraining from holy jealousy won't produce a good marriage. Again, this is a failure to think with the entire Bible in mind.

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@AJKocman Bro can kill in more than one way.

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@lambeth981 I get the humor, but you don't sprinkle someone with a grave. You put them all the way in it. Make disciple dunking great again!

[Chase Pinkerton @chase_rian]

@haymes_joshua @anahnemoo The child is made holy as in the institution of the family is God ordained. Being married to an atheist and even sleeping with them is not sin. It does not defile the Christian. That's the better argument and the most consistent reading of the text.

[Chase Pinkerton @chase_rian]

@YourCalvinist Sometimes, their theology does though.

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@CalebDixonSmith Can you explain your reason?

[Michael Clary @dmichaelclary]

Loser theology is how liberalism is marketed to Bible believing conservative Christians.

(I’m writing a book on loser theology, so I'm just explaining a little more of the basic idea here.)

Loser theology isn’t something Christians are taught overtly. They absorb it from their Christian environment. I’ve seen it affect many sincere, Bible believing Christians in my 20+ years of ministry.

Loser theology makes people believe that it is wrong to assert agency for Christ. Christians, they think, are supposed to be passive, weak, and "trust God."

It's attractive because it gives us spiritualized excuses for being ineffective, weak, and lazy men.

Here's how it works.

The Christian life is often presented as a middle road between two bad options. There are Prodigal Sons to the left and Elder Brothers to the Right. (I'm not breaking new ground here, just connecting the dots of winsome third-way-ism to loser theology.)

Prodigal Son Christians are former rebels, partiers, and entitled brats who brazenly sinned against God in egregious ways. But at least they knew they were bad. They know how much they've been forgiven, so they comprehend God's grace better and love better.

Elder Brother Christians are self-righteous legalists who are obsessed with following the rules. But they obeyed God with stony hearts who secretly despised him. They may be saved but they don't really "get it."

As long as you avoid The Big Sins™️ of the left (drugs, sexual immorality, etc.), and the fundamentalist Phariseeism of the right, you'll be Ok. Just follow the gospel-centered “way of Jesus,” paved with service, sacrifice, humility and neighbor-love.

Since The Big Sins™️ of the prodigal are obviously wicked and harmful, we don't need to talk about that very much. We can safely avoid that kind of "culture warring." Rather, we must focus our ire on condemning the subtle sins of the conservative, elder brothers. They need more “air time” to be corrected properly since they're less obvious.

To avoid elder brotherism, one must not assert himself too much, lest he become enamored with power and oppress others. One must not be too strong, lest he take pride in his strength and forget the Lord. One must not love his own family or people too much, lest he fail to recognize the global implications of the gospel. One must not acquire too much wealth, lest his treasures on earth lead his heart away from the Lord. One must not care too much about doctrinal precision, lest he become a Pharisaical "theo bro." In fact, one must not desire anything too much, lest he make an idol of the object of his desire.

Loser theology is the result of these basic impulses.

No one likes being a loser, however, even if they feel like it's their Christian duty to be one. So a resentment easily develops towards those who are rejecting loser theology.

When some Christians see other men rejecting loser theology, becoming more masculine, sharpening their minds, taking care of their bodies, and asserting themselves in the world, they see it as their prophetic duty to denounce those men. They are not seen as men who simply want to pursue excellence in all areas of life. Rather, their pursuits are pathologized as psychological disorders. They need to be given scary labels like "Christian Nationalist!"

Loser theology promotes its own alternative set of godless pseudo-virtues, like powerlessness, poverty, weakness, insecurity, or globalism (AKA anti-patriotism). These are the sorts of commitments that lock a group of people into permanent underclass status. Since they are considered virtues, they do so with a sort of moral high-mindedness.

All these pseudo-virtues have been bundled together and marketed to unsuspecting conservatives as the true path of holiness. There's enough truth mixed in to make them plausible, but since they do not account for the full spectrum of Christian faithfulness, these pseudo-virtues effectively privatize one's faith, rendering the believer impotent for doing anything beyond the realm of his private devotional life.

The "tell" with loser theology is the hypocrisy. They have no problem condemning others for their idolatry of power by crushing them with institutional power or denouncing them publicly with nasty rhetorical power. They alone are able to determine the limits and uses of power.

Misery loves company. If everyone is pathetic, weak, and powerless, we can all feel better about ourselves. But when some Christians try to better themselves and rise above it, it triggers resentment from those who'd rather remain comfortably complacent.

This is all over the Christian world.

I'm seeing signs of positive change, however.

Lot's of men and women are sick of being Christian losers. They are realizing that, by God's grace, a potential reprieve from crazy town is happening in our culture. There's a new opportunity to assert our Spirit filled Christian power in the world and make some noise for the glory of God.

We're not perfect. We all need grace in our remaining weaknesses. We all have areas where we need to grow. But we're getting stronger by the day, if we don't tear each other apart.

Let's keep the momentum going.

[Chase Pinkerton @chase_rian]

@WesleyLHuff brother, fantastic! Your hard work is going to excellent use. All those nights reading, studying and working are going straight to the glory of God. Even without today, that is true, but I many to see it today. May the Lord be glorified in it. Thank you!

[Chase Pinkerton @chase_rian]

@PastorNinja An answered prayer of mine and many others.

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@mcuban Electricians? What does Mark think robots need?