the problem with fandom these days is people attach their whole self worth onto their favorite characters because they relate to them so any criticism of that character becomes a criticism of them as a person instead of just a fictional character.
Can we like... be aware that shows are written to tell a story and not meant to be therapy for the audience? If you're so attached to a character that them acting consistent with their writing and experiencing conflict causes you real irl distress, that's not an okay thing.