If your love, care or willingness to spoil your man only shows up after he does it first, then that’s not genuine love… that’s a performance.
A relationship shouldn’t be “I’ll do mine when he does his.”
Omo love is dead fr 💔
I swear on my life that this silly mindset is built upon a flow system:
1. The intentional socioeconomic situation of Nigerian women who are not yet economically liberated as much as other countries. Which leads to..
2. The messianic complex the men have. Because taking a woman who has limited financial options out of poverty would make you her alpha and omega. And why do you do that?
3. Because of the need to be in control. The belief that since you've done 1 and 2, you deserve control and her total submission. Only this makes you more masculine. Meanwhile the most control you need to be masculine is control of self. Not others. You don't need control over others. Neither should you elevate out of poverty in exchange for subservient relationships. "After all I've done for her". It was not yours to do.
It's why a lot of us started earning and started decentering our fathers because the control they had was always reiterated with statements like "I will not pay your school fees if you don't...", "I will not feed you if you don't..". Because well, that's a form of control. But control is NOT influence. It's not love either.
Influence is earned. It's built over time. A woman "submitting" to you should happen because:
1. You've acknowledged her as a complete human. A human being in all the complete ways a human should be regarded as. And treat her accordingly.
2. Allowed her freedom (not for obscenities or whatever sexual explorations we think comes with women freedom), but to live safely, work and earn and be free in the way a human should be.
This is possible within social structures like marriages, education system, workplaces etc.
The UK stories are good examples because once criteria 1 and 2 above are met and shes in such society, does she need a man? Oh yes, more than ever. But she needs him more in a way that works for her, not with your money or treating her like a pity job. (I still think that men all over the world are required to provide. But that's different from buying love by flaunting your ability to provide).
Tssk. When you see women as full humans, you'd stop thinking you need to elevate them from poverty. You'd start thinking about enabling them to get out of it themselves. The more women we enable, and who get themselves out of poverty, the more there's reference for "building". They begin to understand what building really means. There is respect for hustle, and when they meet a man, they know what's required is building, not entitlement. But you know this. You know enabling them limits your options, so as you were. We'd all be fine.
Revolut has launched a new advertising campaign in Spain starring former football player Luís Figo.
The campaign began with a large banner in Madrid's Glorieta de Bilbao, above a Santander Bank branch, featuring the slogan "Do it for your money - Switch to Revolut," a direct reference to his historic transfer team, reinterpreted to encourage switching banks.
The banner will remain visible until May 18th
In the video, Figo speaks about the importance of managing your money, making the best decisions, and switching banks.
The campaign will also launch in the Portuguese market, with Luís Figo wanting his compatriots to embrace change and take charge of their finances, just as he did.
"Choosing Luís Figo is no coincidence; he starred in the most famous transfer in recent Spanish sporting history, revolutionizing the transfer system of his time. Similarly, at Revolut, we want people to embrace change and break free from traditional banking practices," says Ignacio Zunzunegui, Head of Growth for Southern Europe at Revolut.
"This campaign uses humour and provocation to deliver a very clear message: switching to Revolut is, today, the smartest transfer you can make ."
Luís Figo emphasised that: "Revisiting this campaign with a humorous twist has been fun. Together with Revolut, we wanted to convey a simple but important message: changing banks isn't offside, it can actually be a spectacular goal."
Source: CRTL Magazine
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