I needed to move a sofa.
I mentioned this to an American. He said, "You know anybody with a truck?"
I did not know anybody with a truck.
He looked at me with real concern. Not pity. Concern. The way you look at a man who has told you he does not have a name.
"You gotta know somebody with a truck."
I asked how one acquires such a person.
He said, "You just do."
This is the third time I have received that answer in this country. It is the answer to everything here. You just do. There is no process. There is only the eventual fact of having.
He said, "Ask Kevin."
I do not know a Kevin. He said Kevin like I should. He said it the way you say a shared uncle.
I met Kevin four days later. Kevin owns a truck. Kevin does not own a truck for himself. Nobody owns a truck for themselves. Kevin owns a truck for a fifteen mile radius.
Inside I said: THIS MAN HAS TAKEN A VOW. HE DID NOT ANNOUNCE IT. HE SIMPLY PURCHASED A BED AND ACCEPTED THE CONSEQUENCES.
Kevin arrived on Saturday. He brought the truck. He also brought a second man.
I had not asked for a second man.
The second man's name is Tony. Tony came because Kevin came. Tony did not know me. Tony did not ask what we were moving. Tony brought gloves.
They moved the sofa in eleven minutes.
I offered them money. Both of them laughed at the same time, which felt rehearsed and was not.
I asked what I owed them.
Kevin said, "Buy the pizza."
That is the price. That is the entire economy. The truck costs one pizza and the pizza is not negotiable and the pizza is also not expensive and everyone knows what size.
Inside I said: THE FEE IS FIXED ACROSS THE ENTIRE NATION AND WAS SET BY NO ONE.
We ate on the floor because the sofa was against the wall and none of us wanted to be the first to sit on it.
Tony told me his daughter plays soccer. I asked if she is good. He said, "She's aggressive."
I still think about that.
Three weeks later, Kevin texted me.
"You free Sunday? Helping Tony move a fridge."
He did not ask if I wanted to. He informed me of a fridge.
Inside I said: I HAVE BEEN CALLED UP. I DID NOT ENLIST. THE PAPERS WERE FILED ON MY BEHALF.
I went. I moved the fridge. I have no truck. I contributed only arms.
Afterward, a man I had never met asked me if I knew anybody with a truck.
I said, "Yeah, I got a guy."
I have a guy.
I am somebody's guy now, too. Tony has told two people about me.
He describes me as "the guy who's strong for his size."
I have never been prouder of a sentence in my life.
@Beardless_Sheik Techtrends is a good place to start I’ve seen them post a number of startups and there a regular boot camps and hackathons every year you can check those too.
Create an intelligence equal to a human being, and then put it to work.”
That is the stated goal of the AGI race.
There’s no way I’m the only one who sees an issue with that, or be reminded of something much older.
https://t.co/xQKkgpFPWi
Can we PLEASE normalize putting summaries on the back of books again instead of reviews? I just genuinely want to know what the book is about before picking it up.
There is something slightly irritating about how youngsters today seem obsessed with diagnosing an entire generation of their parents using therapy language they picked up from reels and threads. We are effectively criticizing them for failing a test they didn't even know they were taking, using vocabulary that didn't exist in their world.
It is easy to call your own father a narcissist when you have grown up listening to podcasts that explain attachment theory and emotional patterns. It is harder to imagine what it meant to be a twenty five year old parent in the nineteen eighties with no language for feelings, no examples to follow, no online spaces to learn from, no therapy culture, only responsibility and pressure.
Instead of extending the empathy we have learned through this new vocabulary to those who never had access to it, we often turn that language into a weapon against them. Social media encourages this because anger feels powerful and validating. A label like narcissist or toxic neatly explains the pain and gives it a clear target.
By framing their behavior through complex diagnostic labels they cannot define, you strip them of the ability to defend themselves or explain their perspective. They retreat into silence because they literally do not have the words to counter your argument. It allows you to dominate the interaction not because you are morally right, but because you possess a vocabulary that makes them feel stupid and inferior.
@DavidKa07247477 We desperately need more diploma holders, skilled mechanics, skilled plumbers, skilled builders, heck how many skilled electricians do any of us have in our contacts.
I just hate how everyone acts like we’re not supposed to feel a certain way about anything , you could be expressing how much you desire companionship and someone will quote your tweet and say some woke shit 😭😂
you might think everyone is unfathomably evil when you spend a lot of time online. then you go outside and meet normal, sweet, well-adjusted people, and realise the quiet truth we don’t like to say out loud: nobody who’s well-adjusted spends much time online.