yes the Cornell rape incident is horrible, but a more overlooked sinister detail is that they advertised it in a group chat and NONE of the guys reported it or stopped them. Men enable men.
It really sucks when ppl don’t realize how much I sacrifice to accommodate them. How much I give up, change, or inconvenience myself to make things easier for them.
My feelings are really hurt because I feel like I’ve looked at people as a safe place, have opened up, been vulnerable and told them things and was just being misjudged and criticized the entire time. Like that feeling has bothered me the entire today.
no one talks about how draining it is when your mood switches between “keep going , it will get better” and “i can’t do this anymore, im about to give up.” its like living in emotional whiplash. one hour you’re hopeful, the next you’re spiraling
Biri sizi sevebilir ama sizinle sağlıklı bir ilişki kurmayı bilmiyor olabilir. Sizi kaybetmekten korkabilir ama kaybetmemek için gereken sorumluluğu alamayabilir.İyi niyetli olabilir ama duygularını yönetemediği için sizi yıpratabilir. Sevgi önemlidir ama her şey demek değildir.
CHEATING ISN’T THE ONLY WAY TO LOSE SOMEBODY. IT’S LACK OF COMMUNICATION, LACK OF CONSISTENCY, ATTENTION, DISRESPECT, ALWAYS HAVING TO BE REMINDED OF WHAT NOT TO DO, REPEATING SHIT THAT I DONT WANT BEING DONE, THE FUCKED UP SHIT BEING SAID DURING ARGUMENTS. IT ALL PLAYS A ROLE.
now that i have a boyfriend who is kind and gentle and soft and calls me baby even if upset/annoyed... i realize just how ridiculous it is to deal with the silent treatment or someone who's language/behavior does a complete 180 once upset
Aftercare after an arguments/ disagreements in a relationship is very important. It leaves 0 room for uncertainty, plus it nurtures the feelings that might’ve been hurt during the argument. AND it’s also another form of reassurance.