FYI, whimsical flamingo candles are not actually meant to be used as candles. Unless, of course, you find decapitated heads floating in the bath relaxing and/or romantic.
The postnatal ward was complete whiplash after the supportive environments of antenatal and labour. It genuinely was a very traumatic experience and I’ve never seen my husband so angry in 15 years together.
My mother and aunts talk fondly of their experience of postnatal wards - in ways that my cousins and I are simply bamboozled by. We couldn't get home soon enough.
Apparently the generation before us spent a restful week after the birth with endless practical help, getting a full night's sleep whist midwives and maternity assistants fed the baby bottles of formula and changed their nappies all night long if they so desired.
But the newborn nurseries that facilitated this have all been removed from nhs maternity units. This was no accident or budgetary restraint. It was a deliberate decision to foist compulsory 24-7 "rooming in" on all mothers with the aim of "supporting breastfeeding and bonding".
There is no evidence that it does either. But what it does do is place an unworkable burden on women who have just had babies to assume 24-7 care of their newborn after birth, even when they have experienced complications in their babies birth, emergency surgery or severe birth injury.
US based paediatricians have linked this practice to newborn falls and accidental suffocation where dangerously exhausted mothers have dropped or fallen asleep on their newborns. I am not aware that the nhs even monitors such incidents.
That is why we must bring back newborn nurseries for any women who decides she wants to use it.
It is also why we must not make up stories about 24-7 contact being good for bonding or whatever other nonsense is being fabricated.
Women's needs matter in their own right and it is a danger to babies when this is not recognised and taken seriously.
That's why @sue_haddon, @catherineroyuk and I penned this letter to @thetimes
https://t.co/adUGkPod9e
@_AndyMcHugh@DeputyGrocott@suzyg001 The only bad experience I’ve ever had with trick or treaters was from a bunch of 10 year olds who threw rubbish at me and inside my house as soon as I opened the door. All the teens last night were super sweet and polite and it’s nice to see them having harmless fun
@FinucaneOlivia@LeachSie@swiftscheetah He would have had to leave to get into the Beetlejuice costume and makeup. I think the group dance is the last thing they record on the night.
Also, can we talk about how much money gets spent on security around football games each week because men can’t behave themselves? Away fans literally have to be escorted to and from the train station by riot police.
@hansmollman This is literally Baker Street. These people are just mad that they’re spending millions on their flats but they don’t get to live on Marylebone High Street
@charliersmith1 I absolutely love this! I’m 5 years on and I promise it keeps getting better and it does slowly get easier. After a while the practices you have to put effort into now, will become second nature. Life has some wonderful things in store for you, I’m sure.
This is my late nan who raised me alongside my mother until her early passing in 2002. She was the centre of the catholic community in Basingstoke the point that if she could have been voted as Pope she probably would have been. I’m proud to be one of her thousand grandchildren