Sello Matlopela

[Denis Duke Woniala🇺🇬 @DenisDukeUG]

Dear Wives, Your Husband is Not Your Friend…. Please watch this…

[Royce 🇦🇷 @Royce842167]

When Lionel Messi said, “I’m not leaving here without scoring, no matter what happens”

[Mbuyiseni Ndlozi @MbuyiseniNdlozi]

Hands Off Gen. Mkhwanazi! A society that doesn’t protect whistleblowers is doomed to become a mafia state! They have already killed Babita. What do you think they will do to Mkhwanazi?

He must be shielded from all petty, egotistical, pompous & parasitic attacks!

All who try to reduce his mission to “personality fight ”, or even factions within the SAPS are all wrong. Journalists, politicians & many experts have been peddling of this line.

What this line seeks to do, is to neutralise the correct momentum against SAPS generals who have protected, advanced & benefitted from organised criminals with the endorsed of top politicians.

Mkhwanazi’s mission is simple: Organised criminals are embedded with top politicians & top generals, and they must all be exposed and meet the full might of the law!

Fact: All who oppose Gen. Mkhwanazi are not with the people! That is the bottom line!

If Mkhwanazi doesn’t win this battle, which is a peoples battle, then ours will become a banana republic, a mafia state ruled by men with guns!

Society must defend itself!

[Dr. Ose Etiobhio @osemagnum]

VAGINISMUS:

THIS HAS DESTROYED MANY HOMES.

NO, SHE'S NOT PRETENDING.

READ, SHARE AND REPOST.

Dear Women and Men, come and learn...,

When the Body Says No: Vaginismus, Silence, and the Myth of a Closed Door

They come quietly, these messages, and they often begin the same way, Dear Doc, and then a confession wrapped in confusion, and sometimes shame. I married my wife as a virgin, and yet it feels like something is blocked, and I can touch her, and we can linger in foreplay, but when it is time for intercourse, the door closes. And in that sentence, a woman is almost turned into a riddle, and sometimes into a suspect. As though her body has decided to be wicked. As though pain is rebellion. As though fear is witchcraft.

But let us say this clearly, and say it gently, and say it loudly enough to undo years of silence: this is not witchcraft. She is not wicked. Her body is not conspiring against love.
This is called vaginismus, and it is far more common than we admit, and far more human than we allow.
Vaginismus is the body tightening when it should soften, and closing when it should welcome, and doing so without permission from the mind. It is an involuntary spasm of the vaginal muscles during penetration, during sex, during examinations, sometimes even during the thought of penetration.

Many women say, my vagina is blocked or I am too small, and what they are really saying is that their body has learned fear. And this fear does not belong only to first-timers, although many first sexual experiences are marked by it. It belongs also to women who have had sex before, and to women who have known trauma, and to women whose bodies remember pain from surgery, from radiotherapy, from infections, from stories whispered by aunties about how sex is suffering and womanhood is endurance. It belongs to women who were assaulted, and to women who grew up learning that sex is danger dressed as desire.

And yes, vaginismus has broken hearts, and strained marriages, and turned bedrooms into battlegrounds of guilt and misunderstanding. But it is not a moral failure. It is not stubbornness. It is not punishment. It is the body doing what bodies do when they feel unsafe, protecting itself.

So what do we do, when the body says no?
We begin with belief, belief in the woman, and belief that healing is possible. We begin with counselling, especially when there has been sexual trauma, because the body listens closely to the mind. We seek help not from one person, but from a team, the gynaecologist, and the psychologist, and the counsellor, and the physiotherapist, and the specialist nurse, because vaginismus is not a single story and cannot be solved by a single voice. We talk about lifestyle, and hydration, and the quiet power of pelvic floor exercises like Kegels, and we talk about lubricants, yes, generously, and some that soothe pain as they ease entry. We talk about patience, and vaginal massage, and gentle exploration, sometimes guided, sometimes slow, sometimes awkward, and always kind.

We talk about foreplay, not as a prelude, but as a language of reassurance. And sometimes, when anxiety refuses to loosen its grip, we use medication to help the body learn calm again. Vaginal dilators may be used, slowly and consistently, not to force the body open, but to teach it that opening does not equal harm. Surgery, we say clearly, is rare, and only for true physical obstruction, not for fear, not for memory.
This is a big issue, yes, and it can unmake intimacy if left alone in the dark. But it is also a treatable one. Help exists. Compassion works. Conversations heal.

And so, if your body has been saying no, listen to it, not with anger, but with curiosity. Seek help. Book consultations. Treat infections. Drink water. Be patient. Be gentle. Because sometimes the door is not locked.
Sometimes, it is only afraid.

[Football Talk @FootballTalkHQ]

🗣️ Kaká: “I did everything I could to save my marriage, but I learned something: you can’t force someone to stay with you if they’ve already decided to leave.

In 2015, my wife told me she no longer wanted to be married. I held on to the idea of fighting for us, of proving to her that we could rebuild our relationship. I read a book that suggested a 40-day challenge to win your partner back; I did it twice. Gifts, letters, unexpected surprises… but in the end, she kept repeating: ‘I don’t want this anymore.’

It was a heavy blow. As a Christian, divorce was never part of my plans. The Bible says marriage is forever, but what do you do when the other person no longer wants to continue? I fought until the very end, until I understood one essential thing: love cannot be forced. Loving is choosing someone every day. And if someone stops choosing you, you have to learn to let go.”

[Bianca van Wyk @BiancavanWyk16]

Farm Rapist and Murderer Walks Free After 12 Years

Don Steenkamp (29), who murdered his father, Griekwastad farmer, Deon (44), his mother, Christel (43), and raped and killed his sister, Marthella (14) in 2012, may be home for Christmas this year after being granted parole this week.

After committing the violent crimes on Naauwhoek Farm, outside Griekwastad, on Good Friday, 6 April 2012, Steenkamp drove to the police station and claimed that there had been a farm attack.

In August 2014, Steenkamp was sentenced 20 years on each murder count, 12 years on the rape count and 4 years for defeating the ends of justice. All sentences would run concurrently. He was granted parole this week.

[𝔸b𝕒𝕫𝕫 @abazwhyllzz]

Pastor Emmanuel Iren used the church offerings and tithe to open a free school with modern facilities. This is what Christianity is about❤️

[MZulu wa Limpopo @KabeloMohlah02]

I did not anticipate it.

[Portia Moemedi @PortiaMoemedi]

Not sure what that is. But this is a modern farm house:

[VT @VusiThembekwayo]

My thoughts:

We need Pres. Ramaphosa to successful on this trip.

We can argue and debate our differences internally.
Be fierce and forthright in your criticism.
Vote out those you don’t like.
Register your discontent by taking court action where possible, supporting NGOs if possible or just posting your discontent online.

That is your right.

But, when the head of the country is visiting another country, he or she is your president too.

So, Pres. Ramaphosa good luck in the US.

We will be here to criticise you, your government and your politics when you return.

Or as the Gen Alpha says on X, “we will be there!”

Agree or disagree?

[Miss Ziprusha @destinyzee]

#InCaseYouMissedIt

[Sello Matlopela @CjoTlops]

@Sarah_sam22 Amen.

[ChiefHerbalist @HerbalistChief]

No man should die from Prostate Cancer!!

[ThatBlessedGirl @BlessedGirl001]

House rent — Dad pays
School Fee — Dad pays
Feeding — Dad pays
Protection — Dad's responsibility

Dad: wakes you up at 5am "Pls make me a cup of tea"

Child drags Dad on X: My dad waking me up early to make a cup of tea is inconsiderate.

Damaged generation.

[#LordOfTheMedia @samkelemaseko]

Mantashe : Landani uFloyd, kubi pha.

[Panyaza Lesufi @Lesufi]

Here we go, looking for 20 000 unemployed people. Full details below

[Mugurl_wa_style 💜💜💜 @tlhako_phaladi]

What’s your say

[Sello Matlopela @CjoTlops]

@Solphendukaa This track is top.

[Sello Matlopela @CjoTlops]

@LadyMonzokie @SSFootball @Betway_za It was beautiful to watch.