@honeyNonABG Is it bad if I’m missing how this is toxic? 🙈 I’ve definitely done variations of this to signal to guys that they are now clearly back in the friendzone, when I felt like they were just keeping me around for the validation
@dr_alphalyrae I usually do it through my hobbies, espwcially hobbies that allow for interacting with other people (ie. team sports, sport climbing, etc) If I’m at a tech event, try to find a common, non-work related interest, and that’s where most of my friendships are from
@amapel This is the answer. I have found some very genuine, non-transactional people amongst the founder circles, but my best friends have all come from shared activities and hobbies.
Also, if you’re not taking advantage of the proximity of nature, SF is wasted on you
@dexhorthy It seems like more and more companies are not interested in upskilling or coaching their employees and basically expect them to come batteries included. Sometimes this even includes skipping critical steps like teaching them about the quirks of their specific org.
During lunch at a ski lodge, three highschoolers sat down with their dad in a straight line, and instantly buried their noses in their phones. The youth are cooked.
@bluewmist I never realized this! I used to have the imaginary conversations all the time. Recently, my friend group has gotten deeper and wider, and reflecting on this, I haven’t had any of these mental conversations, likely in the past year or more.
@signulll I love the variety that weak ties bring to life, and how they’re a good source of new friends, experiences and ideas. However, my life became wayyyyyy more satisfying when I developed good friends that I could go to in those hard moments, and when times got tough.