People who wrote down three things they were grateful for before bed fell asleep faster, slept longer, and reported 25 percent better sleep quality. The effect showed up in the first week.
The study, led by Nancy Digdon at Grant MacEwan University in Canada, tested 41 university students over two weeks. One group wrote a gratitude list before bed. The other group wrote about daily events or did nothing. The gratitude group's pre-sleep thoughts shifted away from worry and toward warmth,
The connection runs through the same mechanism that keeps anxious people awake. The brain's default state before sleep is rehearsal: replaying the day, scanning for threats, running worst-case scenarios. A gratitude list gives the brain something warm and specific to process at the moment when it would otherwise default to worry, and it works the same way a values affirmation does: it changes what the brain is chewing on when the lights go out.
A 2009 study with 65 people in the Journal of Psychosomatic Research found the same thing and added something measurable: the grateful group showed less nervous system arousal before bed. Their bodies were calmer and their minds followed.
Two minutes, three sentences, written down before you close your eyes. The body reads it as a signal that the day is done and the threats are over. The prescription costs nothing, works in the first week, and the only side effect is falling asleep with a better last thought than the one your brain would have chosen for you. https://t.co/bwmjWluxsO
It seems to me that high-status people are something like the square root of any social system. In other words, the bigger the social system, the smaller the percentage of high-status people. The impact of mass communication has been to globalize the social system, thereby creating a greater mass of low-status, discontented people—perfect for race communists to harvest for power. It used to be that a Senegalese man could be proud of being the strongest and most charismatic person in his village—something laudable in any epoch—but he’s now constantly bombarded with images and stories about how others at the end of the world are having it better than him, making him feel worse about himself and causing his peers to see him as lower status than they otherwise would. A lot in the world is downstream of this psychosocial dynamic
Depresyon genetiğiniz, hiç tanımadığınız birinin sizi farkında olmadan "daha yetersiz" görmesine yol açabiliyor.
O anki ruh halinizden çok kalıcı mikro-davranışlar işe karışıyor: Karşınızdaki sizi daha zorlanan, gergin ve sağlıksız algılıyor. Üstelik bunu kaba olduğunuz için değil, elinizde olmayan sinyaller yüzünden.
Why do we use the phrase “sacrifice your career” when someone quits to become a mother, but never “sacrificing motherhood” when someone chooses a career?
I've been thinking a lot about this phenomenon the last few days.
Why are women increasingly preferring to date guys who are hot, but aren't successful?
The "women prefer the bad boy" angle is wrong. A guy who is loaded and powerful is not less of a bad boy than a guy who is unemployed - quite the opposite. We are not talking about the dichotomy between a dull provider and an exciting brokie. We're talking about guys who have all their shit together + looks + game losing out to guys who are losers.
This is not "female nature." Women in no time in history have ever preferred these types of guys, until now. Powerful men with confidence and balls have ALWAYS been the most attractive.
So what's changed?
What's changed is that a guy who is powerful and successful scares women increasingly, because guys who have their shit together demand more of them - both in the moment, and presumably long term. A hot guy who is unemployed and has no future is safe for her to spend time with, because he has no expectations of her. She can use him, safely. She does not need to worry about blowing anything valuable up or falling short. In other words, she does not have to worry about getting rejected slotted as a woman who doesn't deserve something better.
It's a different story for guys with power and status; especially when these guys want families. Now women are implicitly being vetted for their longterm viability, or at least how much they hold up to him.
If the hot loser doesn't want to see her again, he's a loser - who cares. If the hot entrepreneur worth a few million doesn't, it's because she isn't on his level.
This is the same reason women - when they do date successful guys - increasingly play extractive games with them. They need the validation of a powerful man paying for them, both to reassure her of his interest in her, but also to (in her mind) level the playing field with power.
In other words, women are behaving like this because they have serious intimacy issues and low confidence in themselves. Do not be confused by the overt entitlement and self-centeredness; this is the overcompensation that confirms what's actually going on under the surface. They know on some level they bring very little to the table but sex, and they have given this away for cheap so many times they don't even really believe themselves it's worth anything.
This is indeed why women are blowing up more and more budding relationships with men, even when there is no plausible reason to. They tell themselves it's their own high standards, but it's really they opposite: they've used and been used so many times, their self-worth is terrible. They just don't think they deserve a good man's investment... so they find some ridiculous pretext to end things with him. She then either goes celibate to "work on herself," or rebounds onto a guy who treats her like trash.
Obviously, not all women are like this - because it is not female nature; it's the nature of the spiritually diseased, modern woman. But it's become enough of an epidemic almost every single man will date a girl who crashes and burns like this, at least a couple of times.
If women want better romantic outcomes, the ball is in their court to self-confront and face their own behavior. If they want queenly treatment, they need to comport themselves in such a way. Established men are at a such a point of disillusionment and disgust over what they're seeing - the time they've wasted - that I know many are preferring to take a wholly transactional route than attempt to treat your average modern women like anything worth expending emotional energy on.
my biggest wins have been buying coins around 25-35m range.
ppl get glazed by the big pnls of buying 1m mcap shitter and getting a 100x+ but the risk of those coins dying is extremely high.
my mental model is they need to get above 20m
then buy the big dips.
below 20m and the risk of them dying is high.
>20m and the market has derisked it for you.
how to get the most out of your bloodwork
>do the tests
>upload all the material you have into the AI of your choice
>run the prompt below and try to connect the dots
>should not take you more than 30mins to come up with new insights on what your next step should be
Eskiden erkekler akşam sıcak yemek yemek, evinin düzenli olması için bakire bir kız bulur evlenirdi. Ev işleri 50-50 olacaksa, kadının geçmişi karışık olacaksa, maddi yükün çoğu hala erkekte olacaksa evlenmek faydadan çok zarar getirir, riskine değmez. Tek yada arkadaşlarıyla yaşayan bir erkek tüm parasını kendine harcar, ev işlerini dört dörtlük yapmak zorunda kalmaz, boşanmanın getireceği riskleri üstlenmez. Erkeklerin evlenmesi için sebepler gitgide azalıyor haliyle evlenmeyen erkekler ciddi oranda artacak.
life flirters have been summoned!!
i've got more tips for you:
(as a professional life flirter)
> stop RUSHING! there is no where you *have* to be. take it slow. when is the last time you *truly* enjoyed a bite of a peach? can you really let your teeth sink into it? take it in for all the joy it is.
> have you taken yourself on a walk and appreciated all the beauty that's around you lately? maybe it's hills, mountains, waters, or even skyscrapers, the birds chirping, the sun rising. you literally get to live another day - have you considered how magical that is?
> every single thing that you see around you was built by someone, somewhere, at some point, and arrived at your doorstep. someone conceptualized it, advocated for it, and built it into this world. and because of that, you get to hold it today. your favorite necklace or watch. your favorite grocery store. the home you live in. someone thought of the idea and now you get to use it/have it. have you considered how magical *that* is?
> or how magical it is that you've met all the people you've crossed paths with in your life? even that stranger you exchanged a smile with last week - you ended up - for a rare moment -in the same time and place. it may never happen again just like that.
> it's really about bringing a sense of awe & wonder to the little details of your life & bringing gratitude/joy to each moment
how can you get a little bit more magically surprised at the world around you?
let's go flirt with life
you got this!!!
I hate this cliche:
"In a million years, nothing will matter"
And I love Jordan Peterson's response to it:
"Any idiot can choose a frame of time within which nothing matters. Talking yourself into irrelevance is not a profound critique of Being. It’s a cheap trick of the mind"
Kısa video bağımlılığına karşı en güçlü kalkan öz kontrol (r = -0.64).
Ancak, gerçek hayattan kopup yalnızlaşıp boşluğa düştükçe bu kalkan hızla zayıflıyor. Bu yüzden, ekran kısıtlaması tek başına yetersiz kalabilir; gerçek bağlar güçlendirilmeden bu döngüyü kırmak çok daha zor.
How to have the best dating life on planet earth:
-max out your value (purpose, life, etc.)
-solid online presence (ig + apps)
-flawless funnel, from initial contact point to texting to date
-aura is magnetic and carefree
-healed childhood trauma, unleashing your actual masculinity
-great at texting
-willing and able to approach any time any where
-date behavior is elite
-self control and discipline post date/intimacy when feelings are involved
-masters degree in female psychology (shit tests handling, etc.)
That's it! It's not supposed to be simple and easy, and anybody telling you that is lying to you.
It's taken me years to get to where I am, and even if you work with me DIRECTLY, it still takes weeks and months of consistent application.
Short cuts do not exist in your pursuit of greatness in any realm.
"women list more specific 'don't wants' than men...women may be somewhat more selective in their mate preferences. The most common undesirable characteristic identified by women is 'rude'...followed by 'overweight,' 'short,' 'mean,' and 'arrogant.'" https://t.co/MKeeoyylNj