"It is iMmAtUrE to take back a gift after breakup"
"The child I'm carrying is YOUR gift"
*During divorce*
"I want custody of MY child; I carried it for 9 months"
When men take back gifts given to women, it is iMmAtUrE
When women take back 'gifts' given to men, it is not
😂😂😂 Bro, I’ve dated so much nonsense in the past that my brain automatically assumes I’m the one paying for everything.
My babe said she’s planning a dental date for us, mouth cleaning, teeth whitening, everything. I told her, No problem, when I have money we’ll do it.😭
Next thing, she got angry and said, I’m arranging the date. You’re not paying.
At that moment, I realized not everyone is out to drain your pocket. Some people genuinely want to do nice things for you. Maybe it’s time I unlearn some of the survival mentality my past relationships gave me.
I have not met a single woman in my entire life moving like this around me
Not because they’re not like this
It’s because they know I am not one of the idiots they meet always
I think of this sometimes…
There are some Women that.. Their only ticket to entering a car for outings, to church and all is ONLY if they end up with a ‘rich Man’
Azin, if they don’t find it.. ZERO access to car.. No plans of ever owning own.. Just Man Man Man and Insha Allah.
Braah!
"Do not train a woman in school except she is your wife"
"I will simp for my wife"
Weak men attempt to legitimise their romantic incontinence by making exceptions for their poor Nigerian wife.
They use marriage as a convenient excuse or a societal soft landing for their inability to control their amorous emotions.
The underlying assumption being that the title of 'wife' somehow transmutes a woman into a more honourable human being, such that there is suddenly nothing wrong with doing for her the same things that would otherwise be considered foolish.
So, it is foolish for a man to simp for a woman
And it is foolish for a man to fund the education of another man's daughter in the name of love...
unless, of course, she occupies the 'revered' position of wife
Then, suddenly, it is not only wise, but virtuous and noble.
But besides the fact that the argument against funding another man's daughter's education in the name of love has nothing to do with the title she bears relative to a man - whether gf or wife - and that the act is therefore equally foolish in either case, the socia and cultural structures that once made marriage fundamentally different have disappeared for the most part.
So 'wife' carries far less real world significance than it did say two hundred years ago, which means for the overwhelming majority, the practical distinction between a wife and a gf is more apparent than real.
For those two reasons, merely saying, "She's my wife" (like Ugo was always doing before he discovered another man was blowing her back out) is not the self-evident justification men think it is.
Hence, if the primary consideration separating a foolish act from a wise one is the title 'wife', then the justification is resting on a distinction that has lost most of the substance that once gave it force.
All that said, I am not unaware that "She's my wife..." is a rationalisation.
The men who justify their foolish romantic behaviour on the grounds that they are doing it for their wives, have done, are doing, and will continue to do the same things for women who aren't their wives.
"I will simp for my wife," and similar contentions are merely pretexts by which they exploit the moral exemption society makes for marriage and by extension, 'wife'. It is the same emotional indiscipline on display, but in this case presented with a socially acceptable justification.
The man who says he will simp for his wife, is already simping for his girlfriend, his female friends and his talking stages.
"I will simp for my wife" is just the more palatable confession. He is not slick.
TL;DR Version:
Weak men will learn new things.
women don’t lie, na you no dey listen, if she’s not telling you with words she's telling you in actions, if you ignore signs i promise you, you’ll see wonders.
It’s crazy and funny at the same time..
+ maybe ironic too..
Coz they can feel this biological impulse to ‘protect’ their brother/male bestie/cousin brother etc..
But NEVER someone they claim to love and be in a committed relationship with.
Weird creatures fr.