my therapist changed my life when he taught me there are 4 types of conversation:
1) small talk (weather, etc)
2) swapping (you tell a story, I tell a story)
3) listening (you tell a story, I listen/validate)
4) problem-solving (you tell me a story, I help solve the problem)
to everyone who thinks scarabia students don't take kalim seriously or dislike him because jamil is more "reliable" im going to direct your attention to book 4 chapter 17:
it's very important to me that Kalim is aware that mina thinks of a lot of ppl around him as "pretentious & conceited" bc this means two Important Things:
1. Mina feels comfortable enough w Kalim to be honest about his feelings
2. Mina shit talks ppl to Kalim 😭😭😭