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The People Who Change Your Life Rarely Stand in the Spotlight
Tonight I attended "Barb's Party." That's what Barbara Kellaher wanted her celebration of life to be called.
It wasn't a funeral. It was a celebration. And somehow, it felt exactly like Barb.
For more than two decades, Barb was the heartbeat of the Marquette Basketball program... not as a coach or player, but as the person who quietly held it all together.
If you walked into the Marquette basketball office, the first question was almost always, "Where's Barb?!" Not because she had the biggest title. Because she was the heartbeat of the program.
There were over 1,000 people who came to celebrate her life. Family. Friends. Former coaches. Players. Staff. People spanning generations of Marquette Basketball.
The first thing that struck me wasn't the crowd. It was the stories.
Steve Homer True, the longtime voice of Marquette Basketball radio and one of Barb's closest friends, said something to me I'll never forget. He called Barb "the best recruit in Marquette Basketball history."
Think about that for a second. This is a program that recruited Dwyane Wade.
Former Marquette head coach Tom Crean, who hired Barb away from her business in the late 1990s, said, "Barb could've been a CEO."
She certainly could have. She ran the basketball office with incredible excellence.
But that wasn't what made her unforgettable. It was how she treated people.
Crean also described Barb as "the ultimate connector because she was a protector." I couldn't stop thinking about that line.
Lots of people know everyone. Very few people have the gift of making everyone feel safe, valued, and that they belonged. Barb did.
During my years as Marquette's Coordinator of Basketball Operations, I was young and learning. Between scouting, practice, camps, equipment, video, recruiting weekends, and team travel, there were plenty of days when I felt overwhelmed.
Without ever making it feel like a favor, Barb quietly took team travel off my plate. She simply saw someone who needed help. That was Barb. I was never afraid to ask her a dumb question. I trusted her.
She always asked about Rachel. She also made sure I got home to see her whenever I could, even during those crazy 12-16 hour basketball days.
Years after I left Marquette, she'd still check in, ask about my family, and somehow find tickets whenever I wanted to bring someone back to a game.
And if you knew Barb, you probably had a nickname. Everyone was "Dawg." To her, I was always "D-Dawg." 😂
Former Marquette star and longtime NBA player Steve Novak shared one of my favorite moments of the night. "I thought I had a great relationship with Barb... and then I realized everyone thought they had a great relationship with Barb."
Looking around the room tonight, I realized he was right. She had a gift for making every single person feel like they mattered. Not because of their position. Not because of what they accomplished. Simply because they were people.
Marquette Final Four point guard Diener Travis described Barb as "the constant." Coaches changed. Players graduated. Staff came and went.
Barb never did. She was the rock.
Then Caitlin Buckley, Barb's longtime assistant, shared the lessons she learned from working alongside her. Have fun. Stay in touch. Care about people.
She also had everyone laughing as she talked about Barb calling her husband, Rich, on a loud speaker phone from the office daily. If you knew Barb, you knew how much she loved Richie.
I couldn't help but smile because those weren't just lessons Barb taught. They were lessons she lived.
Finally, Stan Johnson, a former Marquette assistant coach and now the head coach at Loyola Marymount, shared something that brought the room to complete silence.
During her battle with cancer, Barb texted him: "I see cancer as a blessing. It brings me closer to God."
Stan went on to say that cancer never changed Barb. It revealed her. Her courage. Her gratitude. Her faith.
He closed with three words that I hope stay with me for a very long time. Do. Not. Wait.
Don't wait to thank someone. Don't wait to tell people you appreciate them. Don't wait to check in. Don't wait to love people well.
Tell people you appreciate them. Check in. Carry someone else's load. Learn people's spouses' names. Make people laugh. Make people feel like they belong.
Tonight reminded me that the people who leave the biggest legacy usually aren't the ones standing in the spotlight. They're the ones behind the scenes. The ones who remember your spouse's name. The ones who notice when you're overwhelmed. The ones who quietly carry part of your load. The ones who make everyone else feel seen.
That's what Barb did. That's why more than 1,000 people showed up for "Barb's Party."
Barb, thank you for believing in me. Thank you for caring about me. Thank you for always calling me "D-Dawg."
The world needs more Barbs.
@mmerg@CoachMcNiffUWP I was extremely fortunate to have had the opportunity to be a part of this fantastic team. The needs of fun, freedom, belonging, & personal power were met. That was our focus. The group dynamics created an authentically joyful experience. @coach_daniels3@Tr_Anderson22@ewillie04
BC Lancers Brooke Coombs and Georgia Purtell are competing in the WPGA bestball at the Bull today. Friendly competition with our friends from the Falls! @WPGAJuniorGolf@GCAOWI#TeamworkMakesTheDreamWork
Although I am still sad that our season is over, it easy to be happy for two of my good friends and some of the best coaches in the @GCAOWI@irishsob5 Homestead and Tony Pritchard @HUHS_Athletics Hartford HS. #TheRoadToTheRidge
Our family loved Barb Kellaher. We love her Family. @MarquetteMBB loved Barb. She was as important as anyone since she came with us in the early 2000’s and was instrumental to ALL of us. Buzz, Steve and Shaka after me got to see her impact and love daily. She was a LIFE CHANGER !
It is with deep sadness that we share the passing of former men’s basketball administrator Barb Kellaher on May 28th.
Barb was the heart and soul of the Marquette men’s basketball program for more than two decades. Her radiant, welcoming and generous spirit impacted generations of Marquette student-athletes, coaches and staff members, as well as countless others around the program. Every interaction with Barb had a way of becoming a lasting memory. Her love for her family, above all, and for the program and its people, was always clear, and those memories will remain a part of Marquette Basketball forever.
Our thoughts and prayers are with Rich, Allison, Brooke, Lauren, and their extended family during this difficult time.
This could very well be UConn’s starting 5 next season ⚓️
▪️KK Arnold
▪️Ashlynn Shade
▪️Blanca Quiñonez
▪️Sarah Strong
▪️Olivia Vukosa
*assuming no pick-ups from the portal
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