As your child starts their fall sports season, here is one reminder:
Let the season belong to them.
Support them. Encourage them. Cheer for them.
But don’t make their playing time, role, statistics, or success your experience.
Sports are supposed to teach kids how to compete, handle adversity, work with others, respond to coaching, and keep going when things don’t go their way.
That means there will be hard days.
They may not start.
They may not play as much as they want.
They may make mistakes.
They may struggle.
They may disagree with a coach.
They may have to earn a role they thought they already deserved.
That’s part of sports.
And sometimes the best thing we can do as parents is not remove the struggle, but help them grow through it.
After the game, they probably don’t need an evaluation.
They need a parent.
Tell them you loved watching them play. Ask if they had fun. Listen when they want to talk.
And when things get hard, resist the urge to fix everything for them.
Because the lessons they learn from being a great teammate, handling disappointment, competing for a role, and sticking with something difficult will matter long after the season ends.
Parents, enjoy the season and help your child and team make positive memories.
It goes faster than you think.
As an AD, I struggle to understand why some parents resist high standards for their kids. Growth doesn’t come from comfort, it comes from being pushed, being coached hard, and being held accountable.
As a dad, I hate seeing my kid disappointed. But I’d rather see him face adversity now than be unprepared later. Learning to handle failure, earn your role, and fight through challenges matters more than any short term result.
Winning matters. Not just on the scoreboard, but in learning how to prepare, compete, and respond when things don’t go your way. That’s what builds someone ready for the real world.
As an AD, the growing trend of individualism is making it harder to sustain winning programs. Great teams are built on sacrifice, accountability, and putting the program above personal goals. Championships still come from “we,” not “me.”
Want to win close games in March? Be boring.
- play off two feet in the paint
- throw on-target passes
- hit free throws
- take on balance, great shots
- finish around the rim
- secure rebounds with two hands
- don’t gamble on defense
Boring is cool. Boring wins.
Parents/Players: Keep in mind when choosing to play a team sport, you give up all personal accolades and it’s all about team accomplishments. No matter your role, only the team matters…
Tune in to 103.9 WRBI and https://t.co/MY7zAsXDsB for tonight’s HS girls ORVC basketball matchup between @SRladyRaidersbb and Jac-Cen-Del. @coachkjolly and I have the pregame show now. Tip-off will be around 7:00 pm.
Congratulations to junior Cole Henry for scoring a career high 37 points tonight and scoring his 1,000th point on a dunk! Raiders also got the win 81-42!
Love watching our @SR_Raiders Fire Truck Pull teams participating and raising money for @SOIndiana! Thanks to Mrs. Strimple and Coach Jolly for organizing our teams! @ChampsTogether#RaiderPride
Most high school athletes must understand:
20 yrs from now, no one will remember if you scored 20pts, scored 3 touchdowns etc. Everyone will remember how you treated others, teachers, staff+ the kind of person you were to your teammates, coaches + community.
Character first!