Let's be clear, if you turn down a person's advances (date, relationship, sex or whatever) and they choose to block you or cut you off, that is exactly what it means to handle rejection well. Nobody owes you further correspondence or relationship after a rejection. Dey your dey.
For the life of me, I cannot understand why you want a person you rejected to be hanging around. You want to leverage on their attraction or desire to exploit or use them. You are a thief.
Sometime last month, I was sitting in my veranda.
Then my daughter came to me that she wanted to show me her assignment.
I asked her to sit on my lap and she refused.
Me: come, sit here.
Her: No daddy, let me get another chair.
I insisted, and she obliged.
When we were done, I kissed her forehead and asked her to go. As she walked away, I called her back.
Me: I asked you to sit on my lap but you refused, why?
Her: Daddy, because it's not proper for a girl to sit on a man's lap.
Me: But I am not just any man, I am your father.
Me: I agree with you, and you should not sit on any man's lap. But you should trust your father to always protect you, and he won't harm you.
Her: Okay, daddy.
I knew my wife had been giving her all those orientations, and I was very pleased with what my daughter did.
Giving me the confidence that she's becoming more self-aware at almost 13.
Another day, I was about to drive out, and I asked her to go open the gate for me.
She was putting on shorts that were revealing her thighs.
She quietly went into her room, put on a long gown and came outside to open the gate.
I observed what she did and smiled quietly but didn't say anything.
I want to let some of you married men to know that some of these things are what your wives teach your daughters when you're not there.
And you're not so self-conscious as to even recognize the efforts of your wife.
You overlook these things and still do not appreciate your wife because she's not bringing in any money, and you think that makes her a liability or that she is not contributing much to your life.
You'll know your wife's level of moral assertiveness and discernment from the way your children behave in certain situations they find themselves in.
Especially in the public.
And especially your daughters.
Everything is not about money.
When you ask a woman what she is bringing to the table, this is part of it.
Your child will not just automatically learn morals or behavioral etiquette just like that, without a self-conscious mother.
The school, movies, church or even books may not be as effective as their mother's guidance.
And when you notice these things, do not just trivialize them or act as if they're normal or expected.
Learn to draw your wife's attention to what you observed, and thank her for her efforts.
That's why you're her husband.
End.
Nigeria is dangerously not inclusive.
I know this doctor that stammers. When he goes for interview, he sees his colleague spend up to 30 mins, but his interviews doesn't go past 5 mins. He could tell they just want to dismiss him and move to the next person.
The doctor went for his PLAB exam in England. A day was set aside for doctors with speech difficulty. They were given extra time and asked if the time would be enough for them. He passed the PLAB. In Nigeria, when he takes exam, he has to finish within the alloted time given to people without difficulty.
How do we expect perfection from people who are already with personal difficulties? We need to imbibe grace as a people.
He doesn't run ads for fraudulent companies.
He doesn't scam his fans.
He doesn't commit violence.
Despite insane street cred, he doesn't egg his goons to violence.
Small body, big engine, long money & e no for rub am for your face.
Imbro mi. Who stan you dey stan person.
That lawyer that’s dragging MTN for stealing her yearly data doesn’t know what she’s doing for the whole Nigeria. These network providers have been stealing from us all, and she’s voicing out our pain.
Even if she needs financial support for the legal case, we will raise it💪🏼
Your parents sent you to school as a young girl so that you can be useful to yourself and the society.
Not for you to dump your certificates, then start looking for a man to feed you in the name of "I am in a relationship".
And even when you get married, you still need to prove to your husband that you didn't go to school in vain.
It should reflect in your conduct and the conduct of the children that you have with him.
End.
A woman who understands that respect, submission, appreciation, and honor bring out the best in a good man has learned something many women never will. A good man will move mountains for a woman who truly honors him.
Nobody has to need anyone. But you cannot reject the responsibilities that make a partnership work while still expecting the security, loyalty, sacrifice, and commitment that come from one. You are free to change the rules. Just do not expect the same rewards.
Most times, really good men get the worst treatment from their women. It is almost as if the moment women see a good man, their very first inclination is to take advantage of him.
Good men are deep down, often seen as fools by women.
Ask a naija babe to describe her dream guy, and watch her describe a yahoo boy
Ask her if she can date a yahoo boy and she'll tell you no
So what does your 26-year old dream guy who'll buy you a phone of 1m+ do for a living?
Replying fast doesn’t make you desperate. It means you saw the message and wanted to reply. Stop turning basic communication into a power game. If you like someone, talk to them. Making people wait just to look “busy” isn’t attractive. It’s insecurity dressed up as confidence.
I saw this video & it drove me back memory lane.
At the verge of my WAEC, my father decided to neglect me totally. Uncle Ola took a bet on me and paid for my WAEC. I could have ended up differently.
Help me find this boy.
I want to pay it forward. His WAEC and JAMB.
A guy meets you, you exchange numbers, and he texts you when he gets home.
You ignore him.
The next morning:
HIM “Good morning. How are you doing today?”
YOU “Fine.”
HIM “What are you up to?”
YOU “Nothing.”
Then you wonder why men “don’t pursue women anymore.” Why give out your number if you had no interest?
Men are not chasing women who make basic conversation feel like a job interview.
Reciprocate the energy. Be kind. Be interested. Be polite. Be respectful.
“Good morning. How are you doing today?”
“I’m fine, thank you. How are you?”
It really shouldn’t be that hard.
No matter how kind you are as a man, or how good a provider you are as a husband, it doesn't guarantee perfection.
There's always going to be at least one man out there whom your woman admires more than she admires you.
And she may even feel sexually attracted to him, sometimes.
But she just chose to stay "loyal" to you.
Because she is in control of her feelings.
End.
When a man is asking you out, he does most of the calling.
When you accept to be his girlfriend, he still does most of the calling.
After he fucks you, the calling will reduce and his response to your calls or messages will be slower or delayed.
It's now your turn to be doing the calling and chasing.
If you allow his drop in communication or attention frustrate you and you start to crash out, he will use it as an opportunity to break up with you, because he has gotten what he initially wanted - your toto.
No matter what a man tells you when he was chasing you, he is mostly after your toto.
It's how you behave after he has chopped your toto that may keep him.
Getting a man's attention is cheap.
It's his commitment that is expensive.
End.