Somiaknots

A professional crochet artist, processing and packaging of Nigerian quality foods

[Somiaknots @comfortsamuel13]

@jon_d_doe Spaghetti, macaroni, semovita sold in cups

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@Miss_Oluremi @Tobielobba Was it the brother that sponsored him. His immediate family first. It's not healthy for family to live apart for so long. They both need each other it's not just about the money

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@Temmy_omoileri Greed is what that is called
Be grateful for what you didn't deserve

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@talk2veee Well I think the taste is unique and was the only thing I could drink when I was sick that I didn't vomit

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@jon_d_doe Take good care of yourself Agba

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@jon_d_doe Liquid cash, solid cash, gaseous cash any sef no dey 😄😄😄

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@Temmy_omoileri Absolute words of wisdom

[Temmy @Temmy_omoileri]

The Invisible Scar: Navigating the Echoes of Past Loss in Remarriage

Remarriage is often celebrated as a "second chance," a beautiful act of hope over experience.
Yet, for those who have walked through the valley of divorce or the silence of widowhood, a second marriage isn't just a new beginning—it is a complex integration of a painful past into a fragile present.
Whether the previous chapter ended in a courtroom or a cemetery, it leaves behind an "everlasting scar" that changes the way a person experiences conflict and intimacy.
The "Flight" Instinct: The Trauma of Divorce
When you have survived a divorce, your internal alarm system becomes hypersensitive.
In a first marriage, a heated argument might feel like a bad day; in a remarriage, that same conflict can feel like the beginning of the end.
Because you have already seen the "house burn down," your instinct is to stand by the exit with your coat on.
At the first sign of trouble, your inner voice whispers that history is repeating itself.
This "ready for flight" mentality is a defense mechanism—a way to protect yourself from being blindsided by the same level of pain twice. Learning to stay in the room when your instincts tell you to run to the airport is perhaps the hardest work of a second marriage.

The Silent Comparison: The Shadow of the Late Spouse
For the widow or widower, the challenge is different but equally taxing. It requires a profound level of self-awareness to prevent a late spouse from becoming an impossible standard.
Death often freezes a person in their best light, turning a real, flawed human into a "saint" in memory. When a current partner falls short—as all humans do—the mind naturally drifts toward the one who is gone. To truly love again, one must constantly choose to live in the "messy now" rather than the "sanitized then," ensuring the new spouse isn't competing with a ghost.

The Weight of the Scar
There is a unique heaviness to the "everlasting scar" mentioned above. While both are devastating, divorce often carries a specific, recurring difficulty. Unlike death, which has a finality and a communal sense of mourning, divorce is often a "living grief." The person is still there, the reasons for the failure are often revisited, and the rejection can feel like a daily verdict on one’s worth.

A Prayer for Wholeness
The best prayer one can offer is for a partnership that never has to know the severance of death or the fracture of divorce. These experiences don't just change your relationship status; they change your DNA.
If you are currently in a "second chapter," remember:
Acknowledge the scar: Don't pretend it isn't there.
Communicate the trigger: Tell your partner, "I'm not mad at you; I'm reacting to a past ghost." ( I do this alot and it helps)
Choose the "Stay": Consciously override the instinct to flee.
The scar may never fully disappear, but in the right hands, it can become a testament to your resilience rather than a roadmap for your future.

Love always,

Olushola.

[Somiaknots @comfortsamuel13]

@jon_d_doe Good morning agba

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@N_C_Johnkenedy @jon_d_doe This is devastating.
This is doing the wrong thing for the right reason.

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@jon_d_doe Being the 7th child
I know the shege I saw before I could graduate university
My dad was already retired 6yrs back
It's not funny o

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@jon_d_doe Please break up with her, and go and find someone that is not a virgin. She will adjust with someone else soon. You will both be happy
C'est fini

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@jon_d_doe The father of my child that left, we were not married, came back after marrying another woman and another son, suddenly wants to amend his ways because he's in a toxic marriage and wants me to be his second wife

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Argue all you want, but I agree with her.

End.

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@Nig_Farmer Una still dey remain part?. I chew everything

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@KeruboSk In my own opinion, I think you were the one investing into the friendship, she was just keeping you for benefits.

[Somiaknots @comfortsamuel13]

This maxi gown is everything you can think of, from the color mix, to the light weight, to the softness, everything speaks of elegance. It is screaming rich aunty vibes
You want yours shorter, we are available to deliver.

[👑S.A.L.A.K.O🕊 @UnkleAyo]

I do have a shameless apology to make to Nigerian women.

"What can I buy for my boyfriend?"

If I've ever trolled you for buying boxers, please forgive me.

Buy these men boxerrsssssss. 😭

Your Nigerian men partners treat boxers like leg chain. It doesn't come off. 😭

[Somiaknots @comfortsamuel13]

A new mom wanted something unique for her one month old baby girl, she reached out to me and I told her to say no more. We delivered and the excitement in her voice was satisfying than the pay. I present to you ROSELLA