CompellingPeople

How do people judge each other? How can you affect those judgments? The story of strength + warmth, by John Neffinger + Matthew Kohut.

[CompellingPeople @CompellingPeeps]

Thanks so much, @helloupswing -- sharing here too.

[Upswing Strategies @helloupswing]

Ever been drafting an email & already anticipating the ways it might be misinterpreted? @Matthew_Kohut's latest on @medium will help you understand when email is & isn't the right medium for communication. A must read for all digital age leaders! >> https://t.co/5FUp2SyHpp

[Bob Sutton @work_matters]

19 New Leadership Books to Read in 2019. Great list from @AdamMGrant, especially The War for Kindness:"Jamil Zaki is one of the bright lights in psychology, and in this gripping book he shows that kindness is not a sign of weakness but a source of strength"https://t.co/4ZJ9ju4bo1

[CompellingPeople @CompellingPeeps]

Emotion leads, logic follows.

[CompellingPeople @CompellingPeeps]

We're thrilled that "Connect, Then Lead" has been reissued in this new @HarvardBiz book.

[CompellingPeople @CompellingPeeps]

A great read about practicing warmth as you walk through the world:
https://t.co/3c28V6MXNl

[CompellingPeople @CompellingPeeps]

Definitely worth reading. https://t.co/ubi3D16ekM

[Bob Sutton @work_matters]

6348 interactions, 200 operations "Conflict was most likely when male surgeons worked with male-dominated surgical teams... went more smoothly, with less yelling and other forms of conflict, when the surgeon was female or when male surgeons were surrounded by mostly women." https://t.co/JRiKbNwh4k

[CompellingPeople @CompellingPeeps]

If you're trying to express warmth through words, start by listening. Well worth reading. https://t.co/03X6H3lx7e

[Adam Grant @AdamMGrant]

After talking with a good listener, people's attitudes became more complex and less extreme.
To get better at listening: tell someone you usually have trouble hearing that you’re working to improve, and you’ll listen for 3 or 5 minutes before responding.
https://t.co/nDkQVwHvdd

[CompellingPeople @CompellingPeeps]

@work_matters Thanks for sharing. Interesting to see the work of Albert Ellis and others repurposed to address organizational cognitive distortions.

[John Neffinger @Neffinger]

@j1berger @Matthew_Kohut @CompellingPeeps @Gladwell @DaleCarnegie @simonsinek Also, credit where due: @amyjccuddy's work with her mentor Susan Fiske was huge in shaping how we thought about the strength+warmth picture. And @sallykohn was a champion practitioner of ABC during and since her time @FoxNews.

[John Neffinger @Neffinger]

@j1berger @Matthew_Kohut @CompellingPeeps @Gladwell Strength+warmth theory validates a lot of persuasion advice to 1st show your audience that you share core cares: @DaleCarnegie, Peter M. Sandman's "Donkey," "Feel-felt-found" in sales, the "values sandwich" in politics, even @simonsinek's "Start with why." All good stuff.

[CompellingPeople @CompellingPeeps]

Check it out. https://t.co/kAzL3UZjry

[CompellingPeople @CompellingPeeps]

Just because it's so fun to watch. https://t.co/HoHO7l9iUD

[CompellingPeople @CompellingPeeps]

Fascinating insights from @emmaseppala about the power of detecting emotions through the voice. https://t.co/r9H4M5Fcyn

[Emma Seppälä, Ph.D. @emmaseppala]

My latest for the Washington post - Pick up the phone and call somebody :) https://t.co/hMWuIH9hPL

[Upswing Strategies @helloupswing]

#ladybird talking strength + warmth:
Danny: "She's warm, but she's also kind of scary."
Ladybird: "You can't be scary AND warm."
Danny: "I think you can, your mom is."

[CompellingPeople @CompellingPeeps]

Words to live by from @work_matters : "Am I a success or a failure?" is not a very useful question. It is better to ask “what am I learning.” https://t.co/W17iM779EH

[Bob Sutton @work_matters]

To mark the new year, I just updated my list of things that I believe. https://t.co/Mn7aQLxtJH

[CompellingPeople @CompellingPeeps]

Love this: "It’s our emotions — specifically, gratitude, compassion and an authentic sense of pride (not hubris) — that push us to behave in ways that show self-control." https://t.co/IjL25AsMYv

[Adam Grant @AdamMGrant]

To keep your New Year's resolution, think about how others are counting on you to do it and will be grateful for it.
https://t.co/mngar1Ejic

[CompellingPeople @CompellingPeeps]

The basic idea here will look very familiar to those who have read Compelling People. cc: @work_matters https://t.co/0Toeo8LeN8

[CompellingPeople @CompellingPeeps]

A senior tech practitioner's perspective on the hard/soft skills dichotomy. Very worthwhile. https://t.co/D1KblRXxaC

[Bob Sutton @work_matters]

Analysis | 11 leadership books to read in 2018 https://t.co/xqida4gesk

[CompellingPeople @CompellingPeeps]

Love this. https://t.co/pjFzM8lg5H

[Emma Seppälä, Ph.D. @emmaseppala]

“The great gift of human beings is that we have the power of empathy, we can all sense a mysterious connection to each other." ~Meryl Streep