Complicated Pleasures

Complicated Pleasures is an upcoming book of real relationship stories from fetishists navigating love, longing, and compromise. Share your story!

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YES, we are still seeking interviews with fetishists (and/or their partners) to hear about their long-term relationships, past or present! Please fill out our intake form at https://t.co/GSHkKEirZm

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We recently interviewed a pantyhose fetishist who's been happily married to a vanilla woman for 25+ years. He says they have a mutually incredible sex life. ❤️

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Do you agree or disagree with this quote? When it comes to sexuality, and fetish in particular, there's often tremendous pressure to deaden, dampen or compartmentalize this part of ourselves.

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One pattern we've noticed with fetishists in fulfilling relationships with vanillas is that the fetish partner is deeply concerned with fulfilling their vanilla partner sexually, not just the other way around.

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It's not a topic we're intending to weigh in on in Complicated Pleasures, but definitely one we're going to hear about in our interviews and approach from a place of empathy and non-judgement.

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Is cheating on your partner more understandable or justifiable when you have a kink/fetish, or are only engaging in kink/fetish activities with the outside party?

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We've said it before and we'll say it again: 👏 FIND 👏 YOUR 👏 PEOPLE! 👏

A lifetime of shame and secrecy can melt away when you meet other people who share this part of you and who can celebrate it in themselves and in you.

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Check us out on a recent "Fetish Friday" episode of the Strictly Anonymous Confessions podcast! Miz Darling talks about Complicated Pleasures, plus her own history as a fetishist navigating relationships. https://t.co/fxiDD41aMi

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YES, we are still seeking:

🖤 Fetishists in long-term relationships
🖤 Partners of fetishists
🖤 Real stories—whether the relationship worked out or not

Want to share your story? Please fill out our form at https://t.co/rJduJvMyAi

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@TheLadyPim1 Thank you!! 🙏

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A huge THANK YOU to @TheLadyPim1 for having Miz Darling on her podcast to talk about Complicated Pleasures, plus kink vs. fetish, working as a pro Dominant and the importance of kink community. https://t.co/g9KYENmwPy

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An important quote from an important book. If not for social stigma, how many of us would have come to love and accept this side of ourselves a long time ago?

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Want to hear more about the Complicated Pleasures fetish relationship book project, straight from the authors? We're on Amanda's podcast talking about the book, plus fetish versus kink, spanking, foot fetish, cuckolding and more! https://t.co/mM7MVhKRUI

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When you have a fetish, is it one distinct part of you, or your 24/7 core? Do fetishists differ in our ability (or willingness) or compartmentalize it in relationships? We're hoping these interviews will give us some clues.

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There are books for couples who disagree about money, parenting, politics, religion.
But what about when the difference is sexual wiring?
That’s what we’re writing.
https://t.co/rJduJvMyAi
#fetish #BDSM #relationships

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Kinky folks, how long did it take you to fully "come out" to yourself?

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Interview excerpt from a fetishist who's been happily married to a normative (vanilla) partner for over 50 years. ❤️

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Now seeking:
🖤 Fetishists in long-term relationships
🖤 Partners of fetishists
🖤 Real stories—whether they worked or didn’t
We’re creating a book of anonymous case studies. Link in bio.
#ComplicatedPleasures

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One of the greatest quotes of all time, and just as true for us folks in the kink/fetish community as anyone else.

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Thanks to everyone filled out our survey at https://t.co/rLdOyscq2Q! We're in the process of sorting through responses and beginning to contact people for interviews, but it's going to take some time.

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Interview excerpt from a kinkster in a 25+ year relationship with a fetishist (polyamorous for the past 15+ years).