Nobody wants to hear it, but if you have a list of 50 standards and can't meet half of them yourself, maybe the problem isn't "all men" or "all women." Maybe the problem is you.
Unpopular opinion: The biggest dating scam of our generation is pretending that "personality matters most." If personality mattered, the average guy with a stable job, good morals, and respect for women would have no problem dating. 1/2
Instead, social media has convinced an entire generation that they deserve perfection while offering very little in return. Most modern relationships fail because people confuse attention with value, options with compatibility, and independence with emotional maturity.