to clarify, it was @f2tnshort, or addiastri. she did call me a faggot, and has since deleted that reply from my post, but she had also been warned multiple times previously that all of us were uncomfortable with that language.
PSA from the official corncobs page: this user has used homophobic language towards multiple members of the group, including minors. they were warned multiple times that this was not okay, and after calling someone a faggot, they were removed. we advise blocking immediately.