You need to understand the difference between someone who actually values you and someone who just wants access to your energy, feed off your intense emotions, and take advantage of your generosity.
If you love an ADHDer, please understand that when we forget or don't do things. It's not to snub you. It's not because we don't care. We are trying so hard.
Help us set up systems, don't shame us.
My anxiety has always largely stemmed from my ADHD.
I get anxious about forgetting, not noticing things, not remembering things, interrupting/ coming across rude, and so on.
My anxiety works as a maladaptive coping method and keeps my inattentive self vigilant.