The implication here is disgusting. They think it’s a shame that this baby wasn’t killed.
Does it never cross their mind that this baby is a precious gift whose life is worth being protected by our laws?
On the authority of command vs. authority of counsel for marriage:
Notice that Ephesians 5 says "wives submit to your own husbands as to the Lord" not "husbands make your wives submit to you."
That's the difference between authority of command and the authority of counsel.