it doesn’t matter how effeminate and/or submissive someone makes stolas; there’s no “woman in the relationship” within his relationship to blitzø. and to say being a “woman role” means fitting into those descriptions (as if they’re inferior) is. well.
some of y'all in the femme stolas discourse talking about heteronormative roles and lowk sounding like homophobe unc asking "so who is the man and who is the woman?" desperately need to go out and interact with real world gay communities and it shows