AL_HAAFIDH

A Muslim|A tutor|A student of knowledge✍️% Lover of Allah and his prophet ❣️|Deen over Dunya.

[AL_HAAFIDH @cpsycho_AAA]

Assalāmu a'laykum wa rahmotuLlohi wa barokātuhu......

I'll be sharing more insights regarding our deen and also assisting individuals in improving their deen. I'm also available for online tutoring. You're free to disagree with evidence. May Almighty Allah rectify our affairs.

[Kachi @Xo_nado1]

11 valuable qualities a Good Wife brings to her marriage

1.Submission

2. S3x and Intimacy

3. Good Cooking Skills

4. Well-Raised Children

5. A Peaceful and Neat Home

6. Embracing His Family

7. Accountability

8. Loyalty

9. Respect

10. Fidelity

11. Support and Encouragement

You can add yours 👇

[Dr Love Haroun❤️🩺 @Drweloveu]

Last Thursday night I ran out of fuel on Third Mainland Bridge.
11pm.
Phone at 2%.
No powerbank.
I want to tell you what happened next.

I pushed the hazard lights on and sat in the car.
Trying to think.
Cars were flying past me.
Nobody slowed down.
Not one person.
Lagos at night on that bridge is a different kind of alone.After about 15 minutes I saw headlights slow down behind me.
A danfo bus.
Old. Battered. One headlight slightly dim.
The driver came down.
Big man. Rough looking. Dirty shirt. Chewing something.
My first thought was fear.
My second thought was I had no choice.He looked at my car.
Looked at me.
Said "fuel?"
I nodded.
He didn't say anything else.
Just went back to his bus.
I thought he was leaving.
He wasn't.He came back with a small gallon.
Maybe two liters.
Old plastic container with a rubber pipe attached.
Like he kept it specifically for situations like this.
He poured it into my tank without being asked.
Without negotiating.
Without even looking at me for approval.I started the car.
It came on.
I came down immediately and opened my wallet.
I had ₦15,000 on me.
I held it out to him.
He looked at the money.
Then looked at me.
And shook his head.I thought he wanted more.
I told him it was all I had.
He said "keep am."
Just like that.
Keep am.
I stood there confused.
This man just helped a stranger on a bridge at 11pm and didn't want anything.I asked him why.
He leaned against his bus.
Took a long breath.
And said something I have not stopped thinking about since.He said in 1998 he broke down on that same bridge.
Night time.
Pregnant wife in the passenger seat.
No phone. No money. No fuel.
He said he sat there for almost an hour crying and praying.Then a man in a big car stopped.
Suit and tie.
Looked like someone who had no business stopping for a danfo driver.
But he stopped.
Bought fuel from somewhere.
Came back.
Filled his tank.
Refused every kobo he offered.
Said only one thing before he drove off."Pass am forward."
That was it.
Pass am forward.
The man in the suit drove away and he never saw him again.
25 years he carried those three words.
Third Mainland Bridge.
Waiting for his own turn to use them.I stood on that bridge and didn't know what to say.
This man had been holding onto someone else's kindness for 25 years.
And he chose me to give it to.
A stranger in a car he had never seen before.He got back into his danfo.
Gave me one nod.
And drove off into the night.
I stood there watching his one dim headlight disappear.
Holding ₦15,000 I couldn't give away.I sat back in my car for a long time before I drove off.
Thinking about the man in the suit in 1998.
Who had no idea what he started.
A chain of kindness that crossed 25 years and found me on the same bridge.I don't know who that danfo driver is.
I don't know his name.
But somewhere in Lagos tonight he is driving that old bus.
With one dim headlight.
And a heart that has been quietly changing lives since 1998.
Pass am forward.

*What are you passing forward today*?

Karma!!!!!

You will definitely reap something some day.
Depends on what you have been sowing!!!!

[Dr. Shak🩺 @realbig_shak]

She had never done the typical makeup before. In fact, she hated the idea of glamorous makeup, and I shared the same view. As our wedding approached, my wife told me she would get her makeup done. I didn’t object at all. It was a day to remember, so I felt it was best to support whatever would make her happy, as long as it wasn’t harmful. Deep down, though, I still disliked the idea because I believe heavy makeup takes away a woman’s natural originality. Lo and behold, she appeared on the wedding day without the makeup she had planned to do, and she still looked just as beautiful as the sun and moon combined. I won in life bro😎

[H’s mom @aiishadahir]

Imagine you are a Muslim and your child asks you: Why do we pray Dhuhr and Asr silently while we recite aloud in Maghrib and Isha?

(And you don't know the answer)

[AL_HAAFIDH @cpsycho_AAA]

@JAMBHQ

[AL_HAAFIDH @cpsycho_AAA]

@JAMBHQ @JAMBHQ The center at omi asoro , Ilesa, osun state has been experiencing technical failure, inconsistencies from staff ,poor management of CBT centers. Students who were scheduled for the 9am exam have yet to be called for the exam let alone those who were scheduled for 12pm

[AL_HAAFIDH @cpsycho_AAA]

@JAMBHQ We've been outside since morning with not proper provision and nothing has been done yet while students in other CBT centres are done with theirs. Kindly suspend this centre till they adhere to proper conditions. It has been going like on for the past 3 years and more

[A.Y.O @YusufAsunmogejo]

Since the past 24 hours that I made the tweet on child parenting solution, my DM has been buzzing. I checked them, and one thing was quite common to all: Parents who are not happy about their kid’s performance in school, and they have approached it the wrong way.

If you fall in this category, this post is for you.

Many of us use brutal force because expectations are too high, and the anger is just too much. The scholar Ibn al-Jawzi explained in his book Sayd al-Khatir that intellect is a Rizq (provision) from God, just like money or health.

He said some people are born with a wide vessel and others with a narrow one. If you try to force the water of a whole sea into a small cup, you will only spill the water and ruin the cup. This is what many of us are doing. We are trying to force a "doctor's brain" into a child whose cup was designed for something else.

By that, it causes a soul-crushing resentment in the child. Imam Al-Ghazali described this beautifully in Ihya’ Ulum al-Din. He warned parents about a state called “Al-Malal”, where a child builds resentment because they are pushed beyond their limit. Everyone wants the best for their child. No doubt. However, if you keep yelling at them for things they cannot grasp yet, you make them hate the very sight of a book. You are closing the door to their heart while trying to kick open the door to their mind.

Then what is the solution? It is simple.

Going forward, every parent should make efforts to start looking for the Fath (the opening) in their kids. What does this mean? This is the lane the Almighty has prepared for them. In our history, if a child is slow with grammar or math, the scholars don’t call them a failure. They move them to a trade, a craft or a service.

How then do you identify this Fath (Opening) in your child? Please pay close attention to me…

(1) The first phase is Observation. Ibn al-Qayyim mentioned a concept called Istid’ad (natural readiness) in his book titled: Tuhfat al-Mawdud. This means you want to watch/observe/look at the child when they think nobody is looking. This is your first tool. For the next two weeks, stop talking about school. Do not worry yourself about how they perform on their homework.

Instead, keep a "Strength Log." Every evening, write down one thing they did well that had nothing to do with a classroom. Did they fix a broken toy? Did they calm down a crying sibling? Did they organise their shoes? You are looking for their Istid’ad (natural readiness). If they are "book-slow" but "people-smart" or "hand-smart," that is where the key has been placed.

(2) Introduce “Project or Craft” early on. Ibn Khaldun, in his Muqaddimah, argued that projects/crafts are high forms of intelligence that build civilizations. He argued that some minds are designed to understand the physical world better than the abstract one.

Give them a "Project Day." Buy a basic tool kit, a sewing machine, or a coding starter kit. Give them a broken radio or a piece of furniture to fix. Delegate. Give them a real-world task that has a visible result. When a child who fails at math sees that they can build a table or bake a perfect loaf of bread, their internal shame starts to heal. They realize they are not stupid; they were just in the wrong room.

(3) Kill the Comparison Virus. Imam Al-Zarnuji, in his classic work Ta’lim al-Muta’allim, explained that a student should only study what fits their nature. He said that forcing a student into a field they have no taste for is a waste of their life and the teacher's time. When you compare your child to others, you are catching a virus that blinds you to their path. Always filter.

When family members start bragging about their kids' grades, you must be the shield. Tell them, "My child is mastering the art of (so so and so)." You are teaching your child that success is not a single ladder. There are many ladders to it. And if you do not value their ladder, they will stop climbing.

(4) Prioritize Character Building. Put more efforts to praise your kids for their good character. Always tell them you love them when they behave well or show good character. Character recognition helps the child build a good self-image, which translates into self-confidence and barrier-breaking for the child. Prioritise this.

(5) Don’t underestimate the power of your words. Always pray to God to grant them their opening. The scholars taught that the "opening" is a gift from Al-Fattah (The Opener). Supplicate.

In your Sujud or in your prayers, stop asking for them to be a doctor/engineer, and what have you. Ask for the door that was made for them to be opened. Ask Him to show you the Fath so you can stop pushing them against a closed wall.

Always remember, a parent who finds the "Fath (The Opening)" for their child has given them a gift better than a degree. You have given them a purpose. Start that journey NOW. It’s never too late…

Thank you for your attention.

Allah knows best.

[Halāl Pair: Muslim Marriage App @halal_pair]

A few minutes ago, I watched a video where a group of female Muslimah were reacting to questions about their potential spouses. The interviewer starts each question with, "He is a Muslim, but..." and the ladies react either by staying or leaving. One of the questions, was that, "he is a Muslim, but he wants to marry more than one wife." I noticed that almost all the ladies left the scene in protest. Well, this is normal. It's their choice even when Qadar may have a different plan. I know a lady who once rejected being a thāniyah but has now settled down as a thālitha barely a couple of years later.

Another question was, "He's a Muslim, but he wants to put Niqāb on your face." All the ladies left the scene but one, who insisted that she will gladly adorn it if the man has money. I find this response unsettling. While I acknowledge the significance of money in sustaining a marriage, especially for a Niqabite with limited opportunities, I also think that money alone shouldn't drive a Muslim's obedience to his or her Lord. Wearing the Niqāb is a divine injunction. It should be done for the sake of Allah only.

Perhaps the most disturbing part of the video for me was when the interviewer asked the ladies, "He is interested in you, but he is a Christian." Everyone left the scene except one, who proudly said, "let me take my crown." Interestingly, I rewatched the video a second and a third time to see her reactions to the previous questions and realized that she was the first to leave the scene when the issue of thāniyah and Niqāb came up. How she moved from rejecting a suitor who intends to marry more than one and the one who will make her wear Niqāb to accepting the one who is a Christian calls for concern.

Is the average Muslim lady aware that such a marriage is not recognized under the Sharī'ah? Is she aware that it is harām for her to accept the proposal let alone get married to a non-Muslim? While these things are contents for the social media, I think that they also reflect the dearth of Islamic knowledge as well as decay of morality among young Muslims. There are dozens of reported cases of Muslim girls getting married to non-Muslims, including ones involving daughters of prominent Imams and Alfas. Something that we thought happens only among the elites is now happening to the daughters of the common Muslims.

But then when you look critically, you will unearth a deep laying decay in the Aqīdah of the modern day Muslims who believe that love conquers everything, not minding the clear texts of the Sharī'ah. Some even go as far as citing isolated examples of Muslim women who married non-Muslims and ended up converting them. Islam does not operate on emotions. Even if all the Muslim women who married non-Muslim husbands end up converting them, the fundamental principle of Islam is that such a marriage is a glorified prostitution. Illegal.

May Allah protect us.

Sanusi Lafiagi PhD

[Shariff $ @shariffshattima]

Ya Rabb, please let me taste the sweetness of consistent Tahajjud in 2026.

Ameen.

[Fatima Saleh @Meenerl4]

DON’T JOKE WITH THIS DUA:

Ya Allah, if my delays are due to evil eyes, envy, jealousy, or just unseen barriers, please kindly remove them. You’re Al-Fattah the opener of all doors, and you never delay our duas without a reason, and you DON’T deny without replacing it with something better.

[AL_HAAFIDH @cpsycho_AAA]

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[AL_HAAFIDH @cpsycho_AAA]

@OPay_NG What's the problem, I tried to contact @OPay_NG via email, phone number but I got no response. I need you to refund my money.

[AL_HAAFIDH @cpsycho_AAA]

@OPaySupport @OPay_NG I withdrew a sum of #6000 from a POS vendor on 11/12/2025. The POS declined and I was debited. I logged a complaint but all to no avail. Kindly help rectify the issue. I tried sending a DM but it's unavailable. Thanks

[First Lady ❤️🦋🥰 @Garbazahrau1]

Dear Allah, Remove us from these five things.

sickness, debt, poverty, hardship, and failure. Ameen

[Idris @7signxx]

8 THINGS YOU SHOULD KEEP PRIVATE

1. ibadah (esp secret ones like Tahajjud)
2. confidential info. shared by others
3. one’s charity & donations
4. personal sins & transgressions
5. sins & shortcomings of others
6. finances & wealth
7. one’s martial life
8. personal struggles & hardship

[Fatima Saleh @Meenerl4]

Dear Allah, Remove us from these five things.

sickness, debt, poverty, hardship, and failure. Ameen

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

If you believe that you cannot make it in life, or amount to anything, except you steal.

You have already failed in life.

You're useless to yourself, your family, & the society at large.

And your mates that are on the legit path, are far better than you.

Low life.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

You can be anything in life & do anything in life, but one thing that you must never do, is to steal from another man.

Everyone loves money, because we need it to get by, daily.

If you deprive another man & his innocent children of his legitimate sweat, you have crossed the red line.

You cannot escape the consequences of it.

And unfortunately, your innocent children will have to suffer too.

You may have gotten rich by stealing, but you'll lack peace of mind.

Gradually, all that you have stolen will start to vanish.

I am not a saint, neither am I a religious leader.

But I have lived long enough to know that this is true for the most part.

Remove your hands from stealing other people's sweat.

It kills your spirit.

It destroys you and your loved ones.

It will make your life miserable, & you'll wish to die, but death may not come as quickly as you would wish.

The old saying that... "a good name is better than riches" can never be outdated.

Take the harder right, than the easier wrong. Stop indulging in stealing and anything fetish.

And free your conscience from that guilt.

End.

[Niniola❤️ @BilalNinilola]

I will get married next year, bi ithdnillah