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fuck it we ball

[An Angel of Vengeance @angeldevenganza]

+ watching a man get on his knees & worship another made-up man in the sky isnt exactly a tingle-generator

YOU are God. Praying = you talking to yourself. God is just you being in touch with your true best self.

Humans re-packaged that into "church" to have power over you

[Kem @viadmx]

Bearded Doctor Sina will not see this one to start forming emotional comforter, until a man mentions a disease common in women they'll you'll see...
"Come here, sit down, don't feel bad"

[Enyinnaya @enyinna_]

You know, I was recently thinking about our coming-of-age years. Many of the games girls played on us were completely unwarranted.

With guys, you could at least tell what many of them were after. Maybe they wanted sex. Or maybe they simply didn't want to be used for their money. So they became players. Some could afford to juggle several women at once.

But with girls, a lot of what they did just seemed random. They'd screenshot a guy's DM and send it to people or post it on the Internet. They'd make plans for a date with you. You'd follow up, get dressed, sometimes even arrive at the venue, and then they'd stop answering their phones. “Oh sorry for the other day, my elder sister’s child had a cough.” 

They'd mess guys around for no real reason. Walk past a guy with a group, tell a funny secret about him, and laugh at him with their friends. There need not be quarrel. You hadn't done anything. It was often just about making themselves feel desirable. Over time, I think many guys simply concluded, "So this is what pursuing women looks like. You just get screwed over until you find one who’d still dictate terms for you." Many men acknowledged it as part of the experience. While some eradicated any chance for emotional investment, others developed what I'd call a defeatist mindset. They accepted women as they are and believed nothing could be done for them to improve.

Most guys fell into that mindset because their egos were tied to their success with women. The more they saw other guys with girlfriends, the more they felt that being single meant they were losing as young men. So they tolerated all kinds of rubbish just to avoid being alone and to appear successful in the eyes of other people.

The women benefited from that dynamic too. Many would mock single guys. If you've ever been a guy at university or in a neighbourhood who's simply focused on his own life—not constantly chasing women—you'll know what I mean. Girls would literally call you gay or make fun of you for being a loner.

It was almost as if everyone was reinforcing the same message. Women implied that if you were alone, something was wrong with you. Men implied that if you were alone, you weren't a top guy. So a lot of young men did everything they could to avoid being single, simply because of how it looked to other people.

That was the reality. Then, over time, something changed. Some of the women who had spent years overplaying their hand with men started going online to complain that there were no decent men left. At the same time, there were still men who believed that having a woman was central to their masculinity. Since they already thought something was wrong with a man who couldn't get a woman, they naturally became allies of these women. But they weren’t really desired by these women—at least, not without an enormous expense.

I watched this dynamic unfold and thought about everything else that came with it: the humiliation culture I've spoken about before, the money men were expected to spend, and the fact that no matter how much you invested, she could leave without any considerable investment—and people would generally support her. At some point, you simply realise, "This isn't for me." You can still talk to women. You can still enjoy their company. You can still flirt or have a good time. But you also realise that you don't have to participate in that whole system.

Let them convince themselves of whatever and however, and try to gaslight you—it’s all good. Life is a trade off: you can choose your sufferings. Commit your life to what is good, beautiful and truthful, and hold firmly against the world around you.

[Grant Lannin @retirementkeys]

Friendly reminder you can manifest whatever the fuck you want

See it clearly as fuck, FEEL it clearly as fuck, and refuse to not have it

It will come to you in a strange fucking way. Like some shit you could never have drummed up yourself. You look back and you’ll be like “what the actual fuck”. Then you think ur smarter than it & ur like “oh this is what’s happening”. Then u look back and u were wrong as fuck. “Oh shit”

Set your aim & start walking towards it and watch the answers fly at your beautiful fucking face

REFUSE to stop until you’re sitting in the fucking vision. Nothing too large to overcome, every resource you need can & will be obtained, every person you need to aid you will appear when required. Let the videogame help you. Commit & GO. But keep eyes open, keep the love with you always

[Uche Perkins, Sr. @JustAFamilyMan_]

I didn’t want to touch this topic, but many of us have screamed from the mountaintops that this will be the future for a lot of Millennial men and women. And it is a dark future indeed.

[Ken_ @cknze1]

Within the typical Nigerian woman’s head,

Her having sex with you while you are jobless is her encouraging you to be irresponsible and too relaxed with your situation.

She needs to do God’s work by making the house a living hell for you so you can go outside under the hot sun and find work.

Marry oo. Make you sef dey motivated.

Lazy man.

[Ojay @TheIrreverent_]

I do not believe it is gross. This particular conversation has a deep context and those screenshots are very necessary. If we were talking to only men, maybe it won't be necessary but since it's public, there will be resistance. Supporting evidence dispels doubt instantly.

[Joseph Brendan @Joe_brendan_]

I think its Yahoo boys that's making some of you clowns

You are a security man
You see me 10 times, you beg and hail me 10 times

You sell shoes 85k I can get on Temu for 50k with free delivery

You open a restaurant and use plastic takeaway to sell one plate of Egusi soup for 18k.

Just because Yahoo boys are tipping you everytime you hail them or because Yahoo boys are buying 5$ Chinese sneakers for 85k or because Yahoo boys mostly do not have taste and will accept 18k soup in a black SUP plastic takeaway

That does not mean we are all Yahoo boys
I am not giving you shishi unless you earn it. If you like hail me 1 million times

I will buy my cheap Chinese shoes on Temu and I will not accept an SUP for an 18k soup

[Yehgha @yaygha]

Your greatest assets are your intelligence, discipline and drive. Her greatest assets are clear skin, wig and ass.

Thus, she is inferior to you. Do not ever forget this.

[🦉 🧘🏽‍♂️spiRituaL🧘🏽‍♂️ @spiRiituaL]

The only option we have is to believe in ourselves, even when there is no evidence that we are going to make it.

Because the only thing standing between the life we have and the life we were born to live is our determination to see the finish line… and cross the finish line.

Believe in yourself so deeply that even rejection cannot bury you.

It is a mental thing.

#FireUp.

[Enyinnaya @enyinna_]

You’ll work on yourself tirelessly to save yourself from misery and despair, and then you’ll meet one idiot who would be annoyed at you for not giving them access to your inner world.

[Enyinnaya @enyinna_]

Paying a staff as low as you can “until they prove themselves” pushes the staff into survival mode which affects your business negatively. You’re supposed to think of your staff as an investment.

[Rakgadi 🇿🇦 @Nkinki_]

So like what happens, you ignore your partner with hopes they will send more texts so you can screenshot?

[Enyinnaya @enyinna_]

It’s likely an extreme example but people don’t appreciate how “up and going” you have to be to keep getting a variety of women: the social savviness, the clothing, the self awareness, the risks, the grit. I spoke about it once and some men said I had successes ‘cos I’m tall.

[𝓜𝓸𝓭𝓮𝓵🪐 @BIG_MODEL04]

I quit smoking weed because it is probably one of the saddest drugs. You probably won’t hit the same rock bottom as alcoholism or other addictions. You can’t overdose and you probably won’t lose your job or your wife or die an early death.

But you’ll wake up one day and entire slices of your life will just be…. Gone.

[Oloye. @Ol0ye]

The military drills was the first time some people learned discipline in their lives.

They should have kept it.

Or scrap the entire thing and introduce a 1 year compulsory actual military service.

[Yehgha @yaygha]

Anytime I see her watching Tv and using her phone, she gets a "one screen at a time" rebuke from me.

Initially, she'd respond with "leave me jor" but I was consistent.

So these days, like a stubborn ill tempered child, she'll act like she didn't hear me for a couple of seconds, before dropping the phone.

Was watching football yesternight and scrolling X, when I heard a stern "one screen at a time!" rebuke from behind.

It was her, doing her best impression of me.

My instinct in such situations is typically to casually dismiss her:

"Go away, woman"

After all, I'm Baba yehgha; no one tells me what to do, least of all a mere woman

But I caught myself, and realised if I did that, I'd lose the moral authority to enforce that same rule with her.
Because for a lesson or principle to be truly persuasive, it has to first apply to its author before it can effectively apply to its audience.

So I dropped the phone.

Then came a smug, satisfactory look on her face.

Moral of the story is that when you're trying to get someone to do or stop doing something, the day they start calling you out for the same misbehaviour is the day you know the lesson is being accepted.

And perhaps most importantly, when you willingly hold yourself to the same standard you've set, you legitimise it in a way no argument or justification ever could.

One of the strongest indicators that you've successfully taught a principle to someone isn't that they obey you, but that they start applying it to you too

[Ben X @Benn_X1]

One day you’ll wake up as a 33-year-old without professional experience to join a decent company as an experienced hire and not young enough for entry level positions.

You can choose to waste your 20s by being a banger boy/girl. There will always be 'nepo babies' to troll.

[Alaga! @Hon_Danjo]

If I were in the room for that NYSC reform. I would have said, the scheme should be for only students who graduate with 1st class and second class upper only. Train them for an extra 3 months in entrepreneurship, tech, yadayada. Combine the monthly 77k x 12 into one lump sum. Give them 1 million naira. Now nip it in the bud for only federal and state schools. If you owe Nelfund, we will deduct your debt from the 1m before we give you.

No more way for 2.2, thirdie, pass and private school people. 🤣🤣🤣

Olodo will not rise again 😩😩😩

[Rilwan @Real1_balogun]

I like how coordinated all these communications are.

It’s a good experience for who has interest in things like that.

All of these could have been revealed a long time ago but the parties involved but they’ve all strategically waited till now.

On the same day Chelsea revealed why Maresca left, Maresca revealed why he left too, confirming what Chelsea said, and apologised for his part in how their season exploded.

Chelsea revealed he and Man City will pay a compensation, and on the same day, Man City announced his signing.

All of that happened within 45 minutes to 1 hour of the other.