On this I don’t fault anyone who marries when they feel it’s their stage in life to do so. In fact history supports marriage has always been an institution for duty, politics, convenience, or propriety even before affection.
My position is very personal and based on my self-awareness to know that I simply would be miserable if I end up with someone I’m not in love with and it won’t be fair to them either.
For that reason, I stand by marrying only someone I’m completely in love with who I’m sure feels the same. It may be idealistic and I’ve also accepted not everyone finds that. I’m also practical enough to accept that based on this position marriage may simply not happen for me, and that’s fine.
Because effort matters to me… I want to also feel special, I want to also have someone go out of their way to plan an outing that’ll make me happy, I want to also have someone think of things to do to make me feel special cos I too deserve to be loved with her actions, it’s never been a gender role. I initiate, you initiate, both of us feel loved and special, that’s how it should be
I know shit sucks right now. But don’t fuckin give up dude. You got people who need you to not give up. Even if you feel like you don’t have anyone in your corner. You can only prove them all wrong about you, if you don’t fuckin give in.
You got this.
Whoever you are.