A poem about playing with me:
Honesty doesn't have to be brutal
The end doesn't have to be bitter
I could just forgive and forget
But my mama ain't raise no quitter
I don't know who needs to hear this, but the word Valentine comes from the latin valentinus/valeΕ meaning βI am strong and healthy.β
So happy for real Valentine's Day to everyone choosing their strength/sanity over situations that are draining.
Chocolate is half off tomorrow.
"I want to be fully aligned with my highest self."
Ummm. Only death will do that.
So since you're alive, how about being fully aligned with your exhausted self, your silly self, your unsure but hopeful self, your most honest and authentic self, and make choices from there.
Idk what intuitive needs to hear this but...
When people are both willing & able they do. They do. Without you having to cry & complain
If folks aren't able, you don't have to hold space for them to learn
If folks aren't willing, you don't have to wait for them to come around
The fight response is not just about fighting against, it's also fighting for.
Those habits that have you in a chokehold, those beliefs you're always wrestling with, that relationship you have a death grip on for no good reason...
What would happen if you stopped fighting?
Sending love to everyone whose ambition was driven by high functioning anxiety, but now you're healing and hard on yourself for being "lazy", when really it's just that your nervous system is having to figure out a new relationship to healthy productivity.
You're doing enough.
Things you can do now that you're a grown up:
1) Stay up late
2) Decide the kind of life you want to live and make choices that take you incrementally from the default life you were handed through cultural and familial structures to a life that supports you in your authenticity.
I'm sorry you grew up in an environment where you were treated harshly for mistakes the first time you made them, so now every time you start something you're hard on yourself and don't allow yourself to be a beginner and grow.
You get to grow.
Anybody else celebrating
Block Friday
Unsubscribe Saturday
And See ya Monday?
The healthier I become, the more my nervous system rejects act now/consume more culture.
Repeat after me...
The person who is for me wants my <insert all the reasons you tell yourself you're too little, too much, unpalatable and therefore unlovable here.>
The people who are for you want you. They want YOU.
"Make sure you stay humble"
Umm no. Most people's default is to grossly undervalue themselves.
It is more useful to keep your magic, uniqueness and contribution to the world top of mind always.
Life will try to humble you.
Use your energy to highlight your divinity.