Itโs circumstantial for me. Some friends are married w/kids and I donโt see them nearly as often as my other friends but I do try to show up to their kidโs things & they show up for me how they can. To me itโs not so much the length of time in between but the effort/intention.
I really canโt be bothered by shit anymore. Iโm at a place where i have too much to lose to be at a loss with letting ppl who ainโt worthy be in my life